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The idea of the white saviour complex has been discussed a lot recently following Stacey Dooley’s Instagram post with a child in Africa with the words ‘obsessed’.
Some have called her out for using a poor African child as an ‘accessory’ while others have defended her for her charitable work and don’t think her race should be bought into it.
But what exactly is a white saviour complex and why is it so heavily contested?
The phrase refers to a white person who acts to help non-white people, but in a context which can be perceived as self-serving.
When white celebrities pose with an African child or praise unfortunate and vulnerable people for being ‘brave’ and stoic, there is an element of privilege that adds to the controversial trope.
Celebrities like Stacey, Ed Sheran, Madonna have all been accused of using their celebrity status to push a charitable image of themselves. Usually, these images and videos are accompanied by tears too.
However, many feel that this is problematic as it adds to the idea that Africa and other poor parts of the world are vast barren lands, teething with poverty when there are other true narratives.
Some feel that this one depiction of these places facilitates one-dimensional views of people from there, proven by the countless stories of people who face ignorant questions about these places, whether they hail from there or not.
But the term is contested due to its intentions; the idea that a well-intentioned action whether visiting a refugee camp or a poverty-ridden country to raise awareness for it becoming a negative thing seems counter-productive to some.
Many felt that Stacey’s caption ‘obsessed’ reduced the young child to an accessory. Some also raised the issue of consent, asking whether the child knew they were going to be shared with a large group of people due to their ‘poor circumstances’.
Followers of Stacey also referred her to No White Saviours, an Instagram account whose bio reads: ‘We never said “no white people”. We just know you shouldn’t be the hero of the story. If you’re not uncomfortable, you’re not listening.’
Those who criticise the complex also argue that it’s not the intentions nor the actions that are wrong (as these endeavours often raise money for important causes) but rather its approach.
For example, every year Comic Relief (or the like) shows poor people, usually in Africa or Asia) with flies around them, as a (often) white celebrity comes to see them, is moved by their story, and then helps them with their situation.
But there are other true narratives from these continents, thriving parts, beautiful landscapes, positive stories which are seldom shown.
Michael Mumisa, a scholar at the University of Cambridge tells Metro.co.uk that the complex has historical connotations that make it a negative thing.
‘It’s not about individual intentions but impact. Its impact is the continued dehumanisation and colonial infantilisation of over a billion Africans. The white saviour complex can be traced back to the racist brutality of colonialism.’
Journalist Kieran Yates also makes a similar point: ‘This isn’t a criticism of the work they aim to do to eradicate poverty obviously. It’s about approach, one-dimensional depictions of blackness in videos that have affected the mainstream perspective of power dynamics. The “eat your food/starving kids in Africa” stuff alone says it all.’
Some also felt that you don’t have to pose with poor people to raise awareness for their cause.
RE: the white saviour debate. Would you go to South Shields and pick up a random geordie kid and take a picture with them to show that you support helping working class white boys going to uni?
People are not accessories to your charity.
— Elle Rudd 🌻 (@ElleRudd_) February 28, 2019
However, many lept to Stacey’s defence, saying it shouldn’t matter what the skin tone of a person is, as long as they’re helping vulnerable people.
‘David Lammy’s tweet has made my red blood boil! This world needs more ‘saviours’, no matter their colour,’ wrote one person in defense of the presenter.
‘Should only black people try to bring Africa’s issues to the public?’ asked another.
But the use of celebrities to help ‘rescue’ Africa from poverty or disease was also criticised last year by the Charity Commission for England and Wales, the non-profit sector’s watchdog. They urged agencies to stop chasing celebs (who in turn cost more resources to be accommodated) and focus on those who need the help.
Others have also said it’s often white celebrities that are lauded for helping, or become the centre of attention, while local heroes who do the heavy lifting year-round and more go unnoticed.
While the phrase is used to criticise the way charity work or cases of poor and vulnerable individuals are handled when shared with a mainstream audience in a self-congratulatory way, it does not discredit those who do the work.
what is a white saviour complex?
World Book Day is a celebration of reading and it sees children dress up as their favourite book characters each year.
It is also a charity that aims to give all young people their own books that they can read and enjoy through various schemes.
Schools will be carrying out various activities on the day that encourage reading, particularly in primary schools.
There will also be pop-up book shops in some stores, as well as a live World Book Day lesson on BBC Teach.
Many children will also be given book tokens, with around 15 million expected to be handed out which enables you to get a selection of £1 books from various book stores.
If you’re planning to get a £1 book for you children then here is everything that you need to know.
How to get £1 books
The £1 book tokens will be handed out to children and young people around the UK and Ireland.
Once you have received one you can take them to various local booksellers around the country, and you can find eligible bookshops near you by using the Booksellers website.
You can then swap the token from one of the twelve £1 books that are listed below.
Alternatively, you can also use the token to get £1 off a full-priced book, or £1 off any audiobook that costs more than £2.99.
The book tokens are valid to use between Thursday 28 February and Sunday 31 March 2019.
What are the £1 books for 2019?
Written by Peter Bently
Written by Mike Bornlow
Written by Lauren Child
Written by Helen Murray and Beth Davies
Written by Sibéal Pounder
Written by Alex T Smith
Written by Rick Riordan
Written by Frank Cottrell-Boyce
Written by Jeff Kinney
Written by Abi Elphinstone
Written by Patrice Lawrence
Written by Malorie Blackman
Girl lying on meadow reading a book
World Book Day is tomorrow (7 March) which means all round the UK kids will be dressing up as a character from one of their favourite books.
And Roald Dahl characters are expected to be as popular as ever – with the author’s classic Matilda at the heart of this year’s event as the character features on 15m book tokens given to schoolchildren in the UK.
All of which means the legendary author’s characters might just be popular this World Book Day.
Here are some of the ways your kids can celebrate their Dahl faves.
Smiffy’s Charlie Bucket Costume £12.74 from Amazon Prime
The BFG costume £14 from Asda
James and The Giant Peach costume £17.80 from Amazon Prime
Golden Ticket costume £10 from Asda
Girls Matilda costume £14 from Asda
Girls Miss Trunchbull costume £15 from Tu at Sainsbury’s
Willy Wonka costume £15 from Tesco (available instore)
Best Roald Dahl costumes for World Book Day Picture: Amazon METROGRAB
Just because you are vegan, doesn’t mean you have to miss out on junk food.
If you are missing fried chicken, there is a great vegan solution coming.
For Plant Power Day, Alpro is launching a Plant Based Bucket, a traditional twist on a fried chicken and chips meal.
There’s mushroom nuggets, sweet potato fries and a creamy garlic dip.
The packaging is made from a combination of nuts, seeds and spices and you can eat chunks of it with your meal.
It will be available on Deliveroo customers in London and Manchester for £5 tomorrow.
‘We’re launching ‘PBB’ to show the nation what’s possible using the amazing power of plants,’ says Stephanie Balsom-Eynon, head of Plant Power and chief ‘bucket’ taster at Alpro.
‘We’ve used a tasty mix of mushrooms and Alpro Almond Unsweetened drink to make the ‘nuggets’, and the sweet potato fries are the perfect blend of fluffy and crispy.
‘The bucket has a crunchy base made using a tasty mix of fennel seeds, nigella seeds, sesame seeds and pumpkin seeds – meaning it’s sort of like a crispbread. It’s deliciously moreish, and really is good enough to eat; especially when paired with the Alpro-based creamy garlic dip.
‘We’ve always said that the future of food is plant-based, because this way of eating is good for people, and good for the planet – and now, thanks to Alpro, plant-based could be the future for takeaways too.
‘For us, it’s even more exciting to bring this ‘world first’ to life on Plant Power Day, because we created this day to encourage people to add more plants to their plates and see how tasty and exciting easy it can be.
‘Hopefully, in launching PBB, we will inspire even the most carnivorous Deliveroo customers to give plant-based eating a try – on Plant Power Day, and beyond.’
World Book Day is happening tomorrow, and it’s likely that kids will be all dressed up as their favourite characters.
That doesn’t mean adults can’t get in on the fun, though, and there are plenty of costumes on the market for them.
If you have a job where you’re working with kids or books, why not join in and dress up?
Here are our top picks of costumes you can get for the occasion. And remember, even if you don’t have a costume shop nearby, you can fashion similar garms from things in your home.
Jay Gatsby or Daisy Buchanan
A costume from the roaring 20s will give you serious Great Gatsby vibes, and can be easily fashioned with any old dressing up stuff you might have.
Men will find it easier to do Jay Gatsby; simply slicking back their hair and putting on a dapper suit.
For women, Daisy Buchanan can be achieved with a shift dress, a statement necklace, and a headdress made with a ribbon tied around your forehead.
Cutting the collar off of a shirt and going for some sort of dark boot with trousers tucked in gets you most of the way to looking like Robin Hood.
Alternatively you could use a blanket and some rope to fashion a Friar Tuck outfit, but the hairdo required for that might be more of a permanent (and undesirable) option.
A perfect option for teachers who want to give their students a jokey fright is the headmistress from Roald Dahl’s Matilda.
A big belt and some shoulderpads should be added to a suit, and pop your hair in a bun if it’s long enough.
If you happen to have a riding crop (we’re asking no questions) then you can throw that in for good measure.
Lion, Witch, or Wardrobe
This C.S. Lewis book is an absolute classic, and resonates with children and adults alike.
Lion costumes can be done with some backcombing, face paint, and yellow/beige clothing.
Similarly, witches aren’t too difficult, and will require you all in black with a pointy hat (available from most costume and discount stores).
The wardrobe might be somewhat trickier, but with some arm holes in a large box, we reckon you can make it your own.
Alice or the Cheshire Cat
These are some of the most recognisable costumes around, but you might have to fork out for the real thing from a shop.
A lot of the Alice costumes have gotten decidedly sexier over the years, so if you’re wearing one to work or school you might want to try before you buy.
The Mad Hatter is always a great one too, as long as you can get hold of a top hat.
Prove to everyone that you have layers like an onion in a Shrek costume.
It has the added benefit of you basically being able to wear your PJs all day, just throwing on a mask or some green face paint.
And it’ll keep everyone out of your swamp.
As Burt, the villain from David Walliams’ Ratburger, you can be as grumpy as you like all day.
Mess up your hair, wear some dark glasses, and go for a striped top like the book cover. You can even carry around a toy rat if you want full realism.
Charity shops will be your best friend for this idea, as they’re full of tweed and checked items that aren’t too expensive.
Those with costume shops nearby should also be able to find a pipe and magnifying glass relatively easily.
Family picture in animal onesies
If you’re a Game of Thrones fan then you’ve probably been waiting eagerly for the last season, or perhaps not if you don’t want it to end.
And now Primark is offering Game of Thrones-themed pyjama tops and bottoms.
Fans of the show can get comfortable and slip into their jammies as they prepare to watch the final six episodes as characters take on the Night King and his army of White Walkers.
The new nightwear comes in a grey long-sleeved top and lounge bottoms and come in grey marl.
And you can chose between the logos of four of the main houses – Targaryan, Baratheon, Stark and Lannister.
We know you’re pretty much planning to binge watch all of it anyway, so you might as well look the part.
Both the top and bottom are priced at £10 which might be considered a bit more expensive than Primark’s usually cheap and cheerful prices but hey at least you’ll be showing your commitment to the world of Westoros.
Though these are the latest garms in the budget retailer’s range, they’re not the only ones.
Primark has previously sold other Game of Thrones-themed nightwear that even the Khaleesi might wear to bed.
And of course, they included the words ‘you know nothing, Jon Snow’.
The ensemble is already out in stores and an image of the set was uploaded on Facebook by deal-finder Ashleigh Money Saver on Facebook.
So if it sounds like just the thing you want to be decked up in as you prepare for season eight, you might want to hit stores soon.
Game of Thrones PJs Picture: Primark supplied to metro.co.uk
A great-great-grandmother has turned 100 and says she eats porridge every day, and advises the younger generation to ‘work hard and relax when you can’.
Janet Morgan, known to friends and family as Jenny, celebrated her 100th birthday on Tuesday and says she eats her porridge and applies face cream every morning.
She says she does not know the secret to her longevity, but advised others: ‘Work hard and relax when you can.’
Jenny, who has three children, six grandchildren, ten great-grandchildren and six great-great grandchildren so far, grew up in Govan, Glasgow.
She recalled washing her hair with eggs, in the hardships of the Depression and leaving school aged 14 to work in a chocolate factory.
Five years later, she married husband Bill, and although he survived the Second World War he died young, of a heart attack.
Jenny said: ‘Bill was the love of my life.
‘He died of a heart attack when he was just 44, and, strangely, my dad died exactly at the same age.
‘We had our three children, Marion, Bill and Anne, during the six years he was at war.
‘I had my hands full with three little ones and he was lucky to come through it, because his ship was torpedoed twice.
‘I can’t remember as much now but what I do know is everything changes.
‘We didn’t have a lot of money but we just got on with it.’
Now living in Dalgety Bay, Fife, Jenny has travelled as far New Zealand and South Africa.
She said: ‘I don’t know where the time has gone.
‘If my mother was still here, she would be thinking she had arrived on a different planet.
‘There have been so many changes.
‘I don’t know what the secret is to making it to 100 but they do say, “work hard and relax when you can”.
‘I’ve lived a very normal, happy life.’
OATS TO SUCCESS - A great-great-gran who has turned 100 says she eats porridge every days and advised the younger generation to ‘work hard and relax when you can’
Looking for a new job is never easy.
You’ve done the trawling through the job sites, the lengthy application form and you finally have an interview.
At first you are overjoyed – but then that question sets in: what am I going to tell my current boss?
It’s difficult to choose between being honest but potentially jeaporidising your career or taking the risk of telling a lie.
And you need to take future interviews into consideration.
When Jen* was applying for a new job in a different city, she had to make the difficult decision of what to do.
She explains: ‘I had to travel quite far to the interview so knew that nipping in and out wouldn’t be an option – I would need a whole day. I kept lots of holiday for the purpose of job interviews as I knew I wanted to leave.
‘With the distance in mind, most places were quite accommodating in giving me notice for an interview but even a fortnight for a day of leave was difficult for my job.
‘I ended up with three interviews – the first I managed to organise as a Skype interview and swapped for a later shift so I could do it at home.
‘The second happened to fall during some leave but for the third, I was stuck. I ended up saying that I’d put a leave request through for the wrong date and asked if I could change it.
‘I apologised and said I had only just noticed. I didn’t want to pull a sickie but I knew saying I needed leave at the last minute to raise questions.
‘It was fine in the end and I ended up getting the second job but I was so worried about it causing problems. I didn’t want to lie but I knew telling the truth would have caused problems for me and affected my relationship with my boss.’
Both options cause a lot of anxiety and it does depend on your particular situation but careers advice expert for TopCV, Amanda Augustine has some advice.
She explains: ‘It’s an impossible situation to be in and one that every employer will handle differently.
‘Whether you decide to be open and honest with your boss will depend on your relationship with them, how they have dealt with former colleagues who have left – and crucially, what you hope to get out of having that conversation.
‘It may be that you’re open to staying, given you can iron out the things which have been making you unhappy. If this is the case, having a frank discussion with your boss about the fact that you are interviewing could be a good opportunity to re-negotiate your role – whether that’s asking for flexible working hours or a pay rise.
‘If however, you’re past the point of no return, honesty may not necessarily be the best policy. It could very well work against you to be too forthcoming with this information and end up jeopardising your current position before you’ve landed a new one.’
You are not legally obliged to tell your manager that you have an interview and Amanda has a few tips on what to do without jeapordising your current or new position.
She adds: ‘Only pull a sickie as a last resort. Avoid pulling a sickie or using the age old ‘doctor’s appointment’ excuse unless you absolutely have to.
‘Lying about why you need time off work can be extremely risky. Bear in mind that most job offers aren’t extended after only one interview. While this lie might work for your first interview, you can’t continue to get ‘sick’ throughout the course of your job search.
‘Do what you can to avoid needing to take time off. When your prospective employer calls to schedule the interview, there’s no harm in asking whether the meeting can be held outside of your working hours.
‘So many job seekers still don’t seem to be aware that they can request this and on-the-whole those doing the interviewing are happy to be flexible. If they are unable to accommodate such a request, at least they will respect your integrity.
‘If the distance between the prospective employer’s office and your current organisation makes it impossible to attend a midday, in-person interview, find out if your prospective employer is open to conducting a virtual interview instead. This option becomes all the better if you have the ability to work remotely on occasion.’
‘You can take a day’s leave. If the interview must take place during regular work hours and you have advance notice of the meeting, then your best option is to just take the day off.
‘Keep your request simple and avoid over complicating your story.
‘Not only will this give you proper time to prepare for the interview, but you can take advantage of the rest of the day to focus on other job-search activities, such as submitting additional job applications, contacting recruiters and reaching out to other people in your network who could help advance your search.’
Whatever you do, you need to make sure you stick to your decision and your story. Once you’ve secured approval for the time away from work, you need to stop worrying and concentrate on preparing for your interview.
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Amazon may not be your first port of call for purchasing beauty products, but don’t be fooled by their offering of books and electronics – they also stock a range of award-winning perfumes, makeup, skin care and hair products.
In fact, Amazon has become a hot-spot for top high street brands over recent years, selling the likes of Maybelline, Rimmel and Revlon at discounted prices.
So to help you out (as trawling through hundreds of pages could take some time), we have rounded up six of the best-selling beauty products on Amazon right now, that are worthy of a spot in your online shopping basket.
Retinol-based skincare products are having a moment right now.
So it’s not surprising the number one best-selling product is Viola Skin Retinol Face Serum with Hyaluronic Acid & Vitamin E, which boasts nearly 2,000 reviews, with 69% of those rated 5 star.
But what is retinol? To keep it short and sweet, retinol is proven to not only reduce fine lines and wrinkles, but also to help prevent them forming.
One happy customer even went as far to say it the serum had changed her life: ‘this has changed my life and I’ve only used it for four days.’
‘It’s evening out the tone, making it super soft and makeup glides on like a dream and I’ve had zero breakouts, it’s actually healed my skin and reduced scarring.’ she said.
Viola Skin Retinol Face Serum with Hyaluronic Acid & Vitamin E, £14.97, amazon.co.uk
For length, volume and a long-lasting curl, Maybelline Mascara Lash Sensational is hard to beat, especially at the pocket-money price of £5.30.
The curved plastic wand allows you to grab every single lash and lift them from the base to the tip, for seriously lengthy fanned out lashes, all without a panda eye in sight.
It’s that good you’ll repurchase it again and again.
Maybelline Mascara Lash Sensational, £5.30, amazon.co.uk
For a flawless foundation finish, makeup brushes are good, but some would claim makeup sponges are better.
According to one review on Amazon, ‘the finish you can achieve with these sponges is so much nicer than makeup applied with a brush or fingers.’
The foamy, springy, high street alternative to the cult Beautyblender, helps you to apply and blend makeup like a pro. Simply soak the sponge and squeeze out the excess before applying. The result? A smooth, seamless finish.
Here at Metro.co.uk, we couldn’t imagine doing our makeup without one.
Real Techniques Miracle Complexion Make-Up Sponge, £8.49, amazon.co.uk
The Eylure DYBROW Eyebrow Dye Kit makes tinting your eyebrows at home easy peasy.
It might seem like a scary prospect tinting your own brows, but to prevent any accidental staining of the skin, just apply a thin layer of balm like Vaseline around your eyebrows.
Once the prep work is done (including the mixing of the dye cream and activating solution), you apply the dye with the included spoolie, wait a couple of minutes for it to work its magic and then wipe it off with a wet cotton pad to reveal bolder, more refined brows.
One customer even went as far as saying, ‘I would never again pay someone to tint my brows, or go back to applying make up to them daily.’
Eylure DYBROW Eyebrow Dye Kit, £5, amazon.co.uk
Looking for the best body moisturiser?
Well according to 965 amazon reviews, the Aveeno Daily Moisturising Lotion is the one to buy.
Formulated with naturally active colloidal oatmeal, this fast absorbing lotion, will nourish, hydrate and leave your limbs visibly softer and smoother.
It is backed by Jennifer Aniston too and if her bod’ is anything to go by, it is well worth a try.
Aveeno Daily Moisturising Lotion, £5, amazon.co.uk
When it comes to getting gunk out of your pores, cleansing is key. But for a quick fix nose strips can help.
These strips from Biore target clogged pores and draw out oil for a quick clean.
Simply wet your snout, apply the strip, wait for it to harden, peel off and then examine the goo removed (dead skin cells, dirt, hair, oil and, yes, blackheads) – we know you want to.
Biore Ultra Deep Cleansing Pore Strips, £5.33, amazon.co.uk
The best-selling beauty products on Amazon right now Picture: Amazon METROGRAB
A woman has divided opinions on Netmums after taking to the site to ask whether she was right to be annoyed that her mother-in-law keeps kissing her one and two-year-old children on the lips.
Annie, a mother-of-two, said: ‘I guess I notice it and it stands out to me because no one else I know does this and myself and my other half don’t even kiss our kids in this way.
‘She wears lipstick as well.
‘I mean I’m not suggesting there’s anything dodgy with her doing this but I’m not easy with it.
‘My kids squirm as well. But I’m not sure what I can do or say.
‘We don’t have a close relationship and my partner also doesn’t have an easy relationship with his parents.
‘If either of us were to comment it would likely blow up into a massive thing.
‘What does everyone think about this kind of thing, has anyone had anything similar?’
Some people have been on Annie’s side, saying they can understand why she feels uncomfortable by this.
One mother wrote: ‘Yeah I remember my gran doing this to me when I was younger and I hated it. Neither my mum or mil feel impulsed to do the same with ds though.
‘In your situation I would make a light hearted comment that I don’t think ds/dd really likes being kissed on the lips.’
Another said: ‘I wouldn’t like this at all! I don’t kiss my children on the lips so I don’t want anyone else doing it.
‘I made it clear to every single family member that I didn’t want them kissing my baby when she was first born as I was afraid of the herpes virus that can make them really ill.
‘I think that because of this they are still weary about kissing her as she is still only 9 months. Can you ask your 2yo if they mind it? If they say they don’t let it tell them to tell her to stop and that way you don’t have to say anything.’
However, others said the mother-in-law wasn’t doing anything wrong.
One person wrote: ‘I don’t see an issue with it, but I kiss my 2 year old on the lips and so he’s quite happy to kiss grandparents on the lips. My mother in law wouldn’t do it, I get the impression she probably didn’t kiss her children. But my family see it as normal.
‘Morally, there’s nothing wrong with it imo so I would let it go rather than upset someone. But it’s up to you.’
Someone else added that it’s all about the children’s consent: ‘We kiss on the lips, so I would have no issue with that. However my children have the choice – if they don’t want to kiss someone then that is their right and they are never forced to do it.
‘That would be my issue, if the kids don’t want to kiss and are clearly uncomfortable then they shouldn’t be kissing. They should feel that they can say no.
‘Teaching about consent starts young and they should absolutely feel they can say no to someone kissing/cuddling them.’
A mum has divided opinion on Netmums by posting to say she\'s noticed her mother in law keeps kissing her 1 and 2yr old children on the lips
Wyley Simpson had just started his transition to become a man when he found out he was pregnant.
Initially he was shocked and nervous as he did not feel ready to have a baby with his fiancé, Stephan Gaeth, 28.
However, determined to make the surprise work, Wyley carried through with his pregnancy – while battling abuse and judgement from strangers on a daily basis.
But on September 5 2018, Wyley gave birth to their 7lb 5oz son, Rowan, via emergency C-section – after which he said all of the comments became worth it.
Now, the couple have just celebrated their son turning six-months-old and have revealed what pregnant life and parenthood is like.
Wyley, from San Antonio, Texas, US, said: ‘It’s not every day that someone sees a pregnant man walking down the road, so we received a fair amount of abuse – I would be told that I’ll never be a man, “men don’t carry babies” and everyone called me “it”.
‘I was already worried as this was my first pregnancy, but I was also nervous because I had to deal with a lot of stigma behind me being a pregnant man.
‘But alongside receiving rude comments from other people, the pregnancy took a lot for me emotionally.
‘Having gone through the transitioning process since I was 21-years-old, having a physical baby bump was something so feminine that messed with my head.
‘But it was all worth it to have Rowan and to become a father – I wouldn’t have changed a thing.’
Despite being grateful that he could carry his own child, Wyley explains that he was only able to feel comfortable about becoming a father once Rowan was born.
He said: ‘Once my physical bump had disappeared and I was able to take my hormones again, I felt good about everything.
‘Myself and Stephan suddenly turned into a gay couple with a baby, as opposed to me being a pregnant man.
‘And Rowan is amazing, he made all of the mental and physical pain completely worth it.
‘Now myself and Stephan are just reveling in fatherhood and can’t wait to continue our journey as a family.’
But despite being glad that he was able to naturally conceive his son, Wyley claims that he will not carry another child himself.
He said: ‘I am looking to fully transition in the future, so the likelihood of having another child naturally is unlikely.
‘It was a great feeling to be able to carry Rowan, feeling him kick and going to baby scans, but for me as a person, it isn’t something I can continue to do.
‘I don’t see myself as any less of a man because of what happened, but I just do not identify in such a feminine way as to be pregnant – so it won’t be happening again.
‘But I am glad that I got to go through something as amazing and natural as birthing my own child, it’s definitely made mine and Rowan’s bond so much closer.’
PICS BY WYLEY SIMPSON / CATERS NEWS - (PICTURED : Wyley posing with his baby bump at eight months pregnant, before giving birth to his son Rowan on September 5 2018.) - A transgender man who gave birth to a baby boy has revealed the emotional turmoil he went through while being pregnant. After finding out he was pregnant on February 8 2018, Wyley Simpson, 28, was left shocked and nervous at the news. Not only had he started his transition to become a man, but he did not feel ready to have a baby with his fianc, Stephan Gaeth, 28. However, determined to make the surprise work, Wyley carried through with his pregnancy while battling abuse and judgement from strangers on a daily basis. - SEE CATERS COPY
Most of us have a vague understanding that yoga is good for us.
Stretching, chanting, posing, breathing – all that good stuff.
But so many of us never get around to actually trying it out.
Firstly, yoga classes are expensive – particularly if you live in the big cities.
And secondly, the idea of starting from scratch can be incredibly daunting.
We’ve all seen the yoga bunnies on Instagram – lithely balancing on their heads with a sun-drenched back-drop, contorting their bodies into inhuman positions without so much as the slightest grimace.
But yoga doesn’t have to be scary – and every master yogi had to start somewhere.
Professional dancer and expert yoga instructor Anna Clifford is keen to spread the message that yoga is for everyone. You don’t have to be spiritually enlightened, an Instagram star or even particularly bendy to reap the benefits of regular yoga.
Anna gave us her favourite poses for beginners – and the great news is that you can do them at home. So you don’t have to brave going to a physical class until you have built up your confidence.
Simple yoga poses for beginners
Anna walks us through some easy moves that you can try in your living room.
Child’s pose: Sit back towards your heels, allow your tailbone to drop down towards to mat.
Let your forehead rest on the mat or on a block and breathe deeply into your back.
Two foot support: Lying on your back with your knees bent, walk your ankles underneath your knees.
On an exhale breath, pour your weight into your feet and float your hips off the mat just a few inches.
Inhale to send your knees forward over your toes and then, on an exhale, slowly roll down through the spine back to the mat.
Cat/cow: This is perfect for warming up the spine.
Lift your tailbone and take your gaze along the floor to find a gentle back-bend and then curve through the back.
Allow your head to be heavy and send the floor away through the hands and shins.
Downward dog: Exhale to lift your tailbone up and back – keep a slight bend in the knees to lengthen through the lower back.
Energetically send your heels towards the mat, allow your head to be heavy and send your hands into the mat. Breathe deeply into the back-line.
Top tips for getting into yoga
‘There are loads of studios that offer reasonably priced introduction offers. Go and try a few classes, the key thing is to try more than one,’ Anna tells Metro.co.uk.
‘There are loads of different styles of yoga now, try out some different kinds of classes, a few different teachers and find one that you like.
‘Yoga is very much about the teacher, so the most important thing is finding a teacher you connect with who helps you feel safe and supported. If you’re finding it hard to choose, vinyasa flow should be the first class you try – it’s a movement-based flow synchronised with your breath.
‘Go for it – yoga is for everyone and anyone can practice, it’s not about flexibility or looking good in the latest sportswear – it’s about feeling good in your body and mind, and empowering yourself with the tools to find inner peace.
‘The only prerequisite for taking a yoga class is knowing how to breathe.’
The benefits of yoga
Improved flexibility – an obvious one, but if your aim is to finally be able to touch your toes, then yoga is a good place to start. You won’t see an instant improvement, but over time you should start feeling looser in your joints.
Anaerobic endurance – yoga is more than just placid stretching. It is dynamic and will elevate your heart rate, in turn improving your overall fitness and endurance.
Builds strength – To hold tricky yoga positions you have to be strong. Think of a plank. Holding your entire body weight in a perfect line along your spine works every muscle in your body. And strong muscles means a lower risk of injury and better stability.
Mental health – as Anna says, practicing yoga aims to give you the tools to find inner peace. As well as the natural endorphins released by simply exercising – the focus on breathing and mindfulness helps to quiet racing thoughts and limit the effects of anxiety.
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Cult beauty brand The Ordinary have released their first-ever cleanser and it’s vegan.
The Canada-born skincare line changed the face of budget skincare with its singular ingredient formulation and stripped back, no-frills packaging.
And despite their low price point, the popular skincare products deliver on results. So much so, The Ordinary’s new product launches frequently attract crazy wait lists in the tens of thousands. Yes, really.
But don’t fret, their latest product: The Ordinary Squalane Cleanser is available to buy online now and there’s no virtual queue to get your mitts on the new silver tube – run, don’t walk…
What is The Ordinary Squalane Cleanser?
The Ordinary Squalane Cleanser has been dubbed as a ‘gentle, moisturizing facial cleanser’ and is suitable for all skin types. The formulation has been created to target makeup removal, whilst leaving the skin feeling smooth and moisturised.
And although this all sounds pretty standard in the realms of skin cleansers, what sets this cleanser apart from the rest is its main ingredient, squalane.
Unlike hyaluronic acid, which is a humectant that draws in water, squalane is an emollient that locks in moisture and helps to protect skin from moisture loss.
It’s also an antioxidant, meaning it’s nutrient-dense and fab at protecting our complexions from everyday environmental aggressors like radiation from the sun, pollution and cigarette smoke.
Being non-comedogenic (meaning it won’t clog your pores) and soap free, this cleanser is gentle enough for everyday use, without over-drying the skin.
The vegan cleanser is also oil, silicone, alcohol AND cruelty-free. And did we mention it costs just £5.50?
Although 50ml may not seem like a lot, the brand insists the formula spreads very easily and as a result, a very small amount is required upon application.
But you’ll be pleased to hear The Ordinary have said that ‘a cuddlier size’ is already in the works.
We can’t wait to see how it performs. And thankfully there’s never been a more affordable way to find out.
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A family on holiday at Center Parcs were shocked to find a giant swan wandering through their apartment to watch CBeebies on the TV.
42-year-old Dulcine Carney was sleeping on the sofa when her six-year-old niece Sophie woke her up when the bird came inside.
Pictures show the 3ft tall swan waddling around the apartment before sitting on the carpet to watch the TV.
Dulcine was staying at Sherwood Forest Center Parcs on Saturday with her twin sister Samantha and her daughters Sophie and Stephanie, 11, when they were joined by the big bird.
She said: ‘We’d gone for a short break over half-term. It was a nice day so we had the sliding door of the apartment open.
‘Myself and Sophie went back to the apartment while Samantha and Stephanie were shopping.
‘Sophie put CBeebies on the TV and I was lying down on the couch with my eyes closed.
‘The next minute, Sophie whispered in my ear: ‘Auntie, I need your help with the swan.’
‘I thought she was having a joke but when I opened my eyes there was this swan standing next to her watching the telly.
‘We weren’t scared, we were very calm. I thought ‘do I approach it?’
‘It looked really calm but I did not want to upset it.
‘It was really chilled. It was just as if it was a puppy dog.
‘It was about a metre away from me.
‘My other niece Stephanie came home, opened the door and said “why is there a swan in the villa?”
‘I thought I would use a quilt between me and the swan.
‘But it followed me into the bedroom. I went back out of the villa and it followed me out.
‘It wasn’t hissing or flapping.
‘I just very gently patted it on its head and said ‘goodbye’.
‘I go to Center Parcs quite regularly. There’s always wildlife around there, but I have never had a swan come inside.’
Dulcine, an occupational therapist from Gorleston, Norfolk, posted pictures of the sawn on Twitter on Saturday afternoon and within hours it went viral.
A spokesman from Center Parcs said: ‘Our squirrels and swans tend to get quite comfortable around people.’
A holiday-maker was astounded to wake up to find a SWAN had waddled inside her living room and was watching TV with her niece.
Primark fans – rejoice!
The budget clothing brand is opening it’s biggest ever shop in just six weeks’ time.
The five-storey building will be located in Birmingham city centre, and will employ nearly 1,000 people.
Yes, it’s going to be that huge.
The megastore is a massive 160,100 square foot and has its own beauty salon where customers can get their nails done, brows plucked, trial pretty lashes and have a full-blown makeover.
Though of course, you could just do all of this at home using Primark’s makeup and nails range – we all know their stuff is pretty great for such a cheap price.
There will also be three (yes, THREE) restaurants, a personal shopping service and free WiFi all throughout the shop, which will be the biggest Primark in the world when it opens on 11 April.
The gigantic fashion house has taken two-and-a-half years to create, with the site’s Pavilions shopping centre closing on 20 May 2016.
Primark has promised this new shop will be an ‘enhanced customer experience’ and judging by the sounds of it, we imagine they’re right.
World\'s biggest Primark opens in April
Bread, mayo, turkey, cheese, avocado, tomato and spinach already sounds like quite a sandwich.
But doesn’t it look even more amazing when it’s floating in different layers.
It’s not magic but a case of very delicately balancing each thing on a piece of string.
Domonique Hassell, 20, from Tampa Bay, Florida, U.S., produced the picture for her Fine Arts degree.
She was asked to photoshop an image for her class and she was so excited by the assignment, she immediately went home and got to work.
She tweeted the amazing picture and said: ‘Might have gotten too excited about this project and whipped it out hours after class ended.’
The second image she posted showed how she got the result.
She suspended each item on some string between two posts.
It looks like it took a lot of balance and paitence.
She even managed to capture the tomato as it dripped.
Once she got the shot she wanted, she photoshopped out the strings, completing her assignment and creating a pretty cool image.
The image has now gone viral and some people love it so much, they have set it as the lock screen on their phone.
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It really does look like magic. Well done Domminque. You’ve smashed that assignment and made the internet very happy.
Attention, Easter egg lovers: Marks & Spencer has released a Prosecco and berry flavour egg and all of our wildest dreams have come true.
The ‘Proseggo Egg’ has been flavoured with Prosecco, berries and a little salt, and is now on sale for £5.
While it sounds lovely, it also looks pretty great too as it’s glittery, pink and features a hand-decorated swirly design.
The Easter egg was recently spotted on the page Extreme Couponing on Facebook, where people got incredibly excited.
It took M&S Easter Egg Developer Katy Patino over a year to perfect the product as part of the store’s Easter egg collection.
She said: ‘I absolutely love the new and on-trend Proseggo Egg.
‘We’ve infused luxury milk chocolate with raspberry, blackcurrant and Prosecco for a delicate flavour with floral notes.
‘And, at just £5 you can treat your loved ones to that touch of luxury without breaking the bank.’
This news comes just after we announced that white chocolate was crowned as the best Easter egg in a recent blind taste test.
The Good Housekeeping Institute carried out a huge taste test on Easter eggs in the UK, and rather than the traditional milk chocolate egg, a white chocolate egg was the winner.
The panel said: ‘It’s Lindt you need to buy if you love white chocolate.
‘Irresistible for a reason, Lindt’s White Chocolate Egg with Truffles were a creamy and smooth win for our panel.
‘Plus, this came out as our top scoring egg overall.’
The Lindt White Chocolate Egg was crowned the winner among 226 other competitors from department stores, supermarkets, high-street shops and chocolatiers.
A woman who secretly recorded videos of herself during her five-year fertility battle has released the heartbreaking clips to give others hope after finally giving birth.
27-year-old Kayleigh Evans took hundreds of pregnancy tests during her fight for a family with her husband Lee, 28, but the constant negatives took its toll.
Unbeknown to her husband Lee, she started secretly recording videos of herself on her ‘down days’ in a bid to deal with her heartache and get her feelings off her chest.
The clinical support worker quickly forgot about the years of tearful video confessions when she fell pregnant, and Tyler was born on Christmas Day 2018.
But the new mum rediscovered the hoard of clips by accident – and pulled them together into a heartbreaking 13 minute video which she posted on Facebook.
The video shows the mum from Birkenhead, Wirral, pouring her heart out throughout her fertility battle – and finally introducing her new son.
Kayleigh hoped it would help other women struggling with infertility – but was astonished when it picked up more than 66,000 views and she was inundated with messages.
She said: ‘I felt like I had no one. I have such lovely family and friends but I still felt like that.
‘I felt so alone and like I wasn’t a woman. It was horrible.
‘I was doing pregnancy tests every week. It was so hard. It was devastating. I would cry every single time it was negative. It never got easier.
‘It was so stressful.
‘I was just doing the videos for myself. It made me feel like I could talk to someone.
‘Even my husband didn’t know I was doing them.
‘Just saying it to someone – even though it was to myself – helped a bit.
‘If I was having a down day, I would do a video. I felt I had someone to talk to when I was down.
‘To be honest I forgot all about them. I saw them the other day.
‘I was just looking through my phone and I saw them. I have been through so much and I don’t want people to give up on trying to get pregnant. Never give up if that is what you want.
‘And always have someone to talk to and someone to listen – even if that is just your phone.’
Childhood sweethearts Kayleigh and Lee have been together since they were aged 14 and started trying for a baby five years ago.
After a year, they went through countless tests to find a reason behind their infertility – but doctors couldn’t find any answers.
The pair were told they could try IVF – but had to lose weight first, so they both embraced a strict eating and exercise regime, shedding more than six stone between them.
They tried everything from herbal teas to pregnancy supplements, and Kayleigh would take pregnancy tests every single week.
All through the five years of heartache Kayleigh confided in Lee, her friends and family – but knew the ordeal was taking its toll on them too.
So she started spilling her heart out in videos around three years ago, getting a small relief from talking about her feelings and ‘getting it out’.
‘When we started having problems conceiving, it was ok at first,’ she said,
‘I was upset, but nothing compared to after two or three years of trying.
‘It’s hard when you are both upset or arguing, and he’s of course trying to be positive and saying ‘it’s ok, it will happen’.
‘I did thousands of tests.
‘It’s hard to describe the heartache. It was so hard. It’s so soul destroying. It was actually devastating.
‘When you’re speaking to people, they always ask if you have kids. You don’t want to go through it all with them all the time.
‘It’s devastating to say “I don’t have kids”. I used to lie sometimes and say “ah I’m going on holiday so we aren’t trying”.
‘When really I had been trying for five years.
‘And when people say “you’re trying too hard”, it’s just awful. It’s the most awful thing to hear. It’s really the worst thing you can say to anyone.’
She didn’t tell her anyone about her videos – and totally forgot they existed when she finally fell pregnant in early 2018.
She found out days before she was about to start mediation for IVF – and admits she had ‘almost given up all hope’.
During her pregnancy, she suffered hyperemesis gravidarum – extreme morning sickness – and SPD, an instability and pain in the pelvis and hips.
Tyler was born happy and healthy at Arrowe Park Hospital, at 2.41am on Christmas Day – his dad’s birthday – weighing 7lb and 8oz, at 39 weeks and two days.
She posted the video clips online as part of an edited video in early February and was inundated with messages from other women.
Lee only found out about the videos when he found her crying on the sofa while she was editing the video, a few weeks ago.
Lee, also a hospital clinical support worker, said: ‘It was rough to watch, but nice at the same time.
‘It’s easy to forget just how hard it was, and watching her video brought it all back.
‘It was rough to watch, but of course rewarding.
‘I’ll never forget what we went through, but you put it away, because we got what we wanted in the end.’
Kayleigh added: ‘I’ve had loads of messages from girls going through what I was saying I gave them hope.
‘Never give up. I was on the verge of giving up. I thought I can’t do this anymore – and then I got caught pregnant.
‘I cried my eyes out putting the video together.
‘A fertility battle is mentally and physically draining. Everyday is a struggle.
‘It was a hard few years but such a lovely outcome.
‘I hope people find comfort in the video and now people may understand why I was so protective through my pregnancy. Never give up.’
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Ash Wednesday is a pretty big day for Christians, as it marks the start of the Lenten season.Two white farmers murdered black boy 'for stealing sunflowers'
Now that Shrove Tuesday, or Pancake Day as it is perhaps more happily known, has been and gone, the fasting time of Lent is here to take its place.
Now that we’ve supposedly exorcised our indulgences via the act of stuffing our faces with delicious pancakes, Christians are now supposed to ‘fast’ until Holy Saturday, or Holy Thursday for some.
This fasting, which in modern times usually translates to giving up one particular vice, such as sweets or chocolate, lasts until right before Easter, and is intended as a way to pay tribute to the fasting that Jesus went through while he wandered through the wilderness.
Whether you’re a card-carrying Christian of a denomination that recognises Lent, or you just fancy the idea of a sort of springtime Resolution, going weeks and weeks without your favourite treat can still be a pretty tall order.
That’s got people wondering – are Sundays a kind of Lenten cheat day?
The answer, it seems, is not completely straightforward…
Does Lenten fasting continue on Sundays?
The Church does not officially promote the concept of ‘cheat days’ during Lent.
However, Lent is traditionally considered 40 days long, even though the time between Ash Wednesday and Easter is actually 46 days.
This is because Sundays are not considered part of Lent.
Sundays are always considered feast days in Christianity, as they are joyous, celebratory days used to remember the death and Resurrection of Christ.
So on Sundays, even during Lent, feel free to cut loose and indulge a little bit.
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Today is World Book Day and many pupils will be heading to school today dressed as their favourite book characters.
The annual school event looks to promote reading among young people and provide more opportunities for them to buy affordable books.
Usually this involves working with well-renowned children’s authors to do talks and make their published work easily accessible to young readers.
Many primary school teachers will be providing a day dedicated to reading activities, with the option to use resources provided the World Book Day charity.
BBC Teach will also be providing a live lesson around World Book Day which will be available to watch from 2pm today.
If you’re wondering what World Book Day is and whether other countries will be celebrating it today, then here is everything that you need to know.
What is World Book Day?
In the UK the main purpose of the day is to encourage children and other young people to read.
It is a charity event that aims to provide millions of book tokens each year that can provide cheaper access to books.
It was initially set up in the UK in the 1990’s and now school’s usually put aside the whole day to focus on reading, with kids dressing up as their favourite book characters.
£1 books are available each year from various booksellers, and parents can redeem the tokens to get the books for their children.
This year there are twelve £1 books available, including stories from Malorie Blackman, Lauren Child and Patrice Lawrence.
Where is World Book Day celebrated?
In other countries World Book Day is still celebrated, but most recognise 23 April as the official day, but this was changed in the UK to avoid clashes with the school Easter holidays, as well as St George’s Day.
The 23 April was chosen when World Book Day was first set up in 1995 because it was the birth or death date for many famous writers around the world including Miguel de Cervantes, William Shakespeare and Maurice Druon.
The annual event is observed by the majority of UN nations and it is sometimes known as the World Book and Copyright Day, as it also aims to promote knowledge on copyright as well as publishing in general.
Each year UNESCO chooses a city to become the World Book Capital for a year, and it is then given the aim of making books accessible for everyone in the city, which includes providing opportunities for refugees and migrants.
In April 2018 Athens in Greece was chosen to be the World Book Capital.
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