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Groom tells gay brother not to come out at his wedding because he’s worried how others will react

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Groom putting the ring on his bride's finger with the crowd watching on in the background
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A conflicted groom has turned to the internet for help about how to manage a delicate situation.

His brother has not yet come out to the extended family (who the groom describes as ‘old school traditional’) but wants to bring his boyfriend along to the wedding.

The groom said he is ‘so happy’ that his brother has found a ‘great guy’ but is concerned how others will react to the news, and that it will outshine the special occasion and upset his bride.

He recently shared his story in a heart-breaking Reddit post, where he asked the internet if he’s an ‘asshole’ for telling his brother to go stag.

The post has 4,600 comments so far and people are conflicted on whether the groom has gone about this in a good way or whether he should have handled it differently.

‘My brother is gay, but my family doesn’t know, only me and my parents know,’ the groom wrote.

‘I come from a very old school traditional family, so the old part of the family, grandparents and some aunts/uncles still have last century’s mind, and the younger portion, cousins/siblings are open-minded, and are living in the present.

‘So my brother has been dating his bf [boyfriend] for six months now, the dude is great, I’m so happy my brother found a great guy. But it’s kind of a secret, as he hasn’t told my family he is gay.’

The dilemma in this scenario isn’t that the brother is gay, nor that he wants to come out – the groom goes on to explain that he has been actively encouraging his brother to do so – but rather the day he has chosen to do so.

He wrote: ‘If it was any other occasion I would be supportive obviously, but I don’t think my wedding day is the day to do that. Imagine all the drama and gossip and bullshit that would happen, the groom wrote.

‘And I don’t want to get the attention away from my fiancée, that’s her day. And I don’t wanna have to worry about that on my wedding day, and I think it’s a pretty good reason.’

The groom recently had a chat with his brother and asked him not to bring his boyfriend along to the event, which has caused friction between the pair.

‘With a heavy heart, I asked him to please come alone to the wedding, and that I hope he understands me,’ he wrote.

‘He started crying and left my house without saying anything.

‘Next day I got a text and he said “don’t worry, going alone”. I tried calling him but he didn’t answer me, and my parents don’t seem to know what’s happening because they didn’t say anything.

‘He eventually called me back a few days later, we spoke, he said he understands my side, but things are still weird between us.

‘This is the worst situation of my life, am I the asshole for handling it the way I did?’

The post has 4,600 comments so far and people are conflicted on whether the groom has gone about this a good way or whether he should have handled it differently.

It’s unclear whether this incident has actually happened (we have contacted the Reddit user to get more information) – but it has definitely caused an interesting debate on the intricacies of coming out, both for the person doing so and for their family members.

‘God I’m queer and I gotta say, a sibs [sic] wedding would NOT be the place to trot out that bit of my life, wrote one person.

‘It’s your wedding it’s your day.’

Someone else suggested that the gay brother has another motive for wanting to come out on this particular day.

‘I think brother wants to piggyback on the wedding to use it as a distraction tool,’ they wrote.

‘He comes to the wedding with his bf [boyfriend], family is shocked, but can’t really deal with/react to the issue because wedding, so impact for him is softened. He’s relying on social politeness norms to sneak in a heavy topic.’

Many people recommended an alternative solution and said it could be better if the brother came out before the wedding, so that it doesn’t upstage the big event.

Unfortunately, however, there’s a bit of a time crunch as the wedding is five days away.

‘It’s not that simple because “coming out” is not like flipping a switch,’ wrote one person.

‘There will be people who don’t get the message, and even for those that do it’s likely the first time they see him with a same sex partner. If there’s 3+ mos [sic] or another major family event before the wedding it might be a good solution..but OP [original poster] say one week.’

The situation has angered some people; while most offered constructive feedback, the groom has since updated his post to express that one user sent him a very threatening private message.

This also prompted him to clarify that he supports his brother but is worried about remarks and looks from the guests, and that he doesn’t  ‘want to see my bride or mom crying, or some idiot uncle insulting my brother’.

The groom added: ‘Literally every other day of my life I will support my brother’s decision to come out.

‘Even at the wedding, I would obviously defend him. But the point is, NOT AT THE WEDDING.’

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Woman tries to cash in free Disneyland ticket she won 34 years ago – and it actually worked

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Tamia in 1985, her recent visit with her daughters and the 34-year-old pass for Disneyland in California
Tamia visited in 1985 and won the pass (Picture: Tamia Richardson)

You’ve probably got a purse full of old receipts and ticket stubs that actually need to be thrown away.

But keeping old bits of paper paid off for one woman when a 34-year-old free admission for Disneyland was still accepted.

Tamia Richardson got the free ticket in 1985 when she was 14.

It was her first trip to Disneyland in California and the park was celebrating its 30th birthday with a promotion offering a prize to every 30th guest received a prize.

Tamia, from Alberta, Canada, won a pass to return to Disneyland free of charge – but she didn’t use it until this week – 34 years later.

She’d been back to the park a few times since but had forgotten about the ticket until she found it among some old pictures and momentos.

The Disneyland pass Tamia got for free in 1985
The 34-year-old pass (Picture: Tamia Richardson)

Amazingly the park honoured the ticket, despite prices jumping from $16.50 (£13.90) in 1985 to $149 (£122) now.

She brought along a picture of herself in front of a sign that read ‘Gift Giver Extraordinaire’ to prove her ticket was read.

She told USA Today: ‘I was really hoping they’d take it. I was less positive than more positive because it was pretty old.’

Luckily, after consulting with a manager, the Disneyland employee at the entrance accepted the ticket and exchanged it for a new daily pass.

Tamia visited the park with her daughters, 15 and 17 and enjoyed some of the new rides that have been built since her first visit, including the new Toontown section, opened in 1993, and the Star Wars: Galaxy’s Edge, added this year.

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Ladies, wear that Zara dress tomorrow and help tackle period poverty

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People wearing THAT Zara dress
The dress that took the nation by storm (Picture:Instagram/ellencscott; Zara)

Ladies, get in formation – in your Zara dress.

The infamous dress has achieved cult status; it’s so prolific it was said to have ‘conquered Britain’ and stolen the summer.

And now it’s being used to do good.

Instagram account Hot4thespot, which documents sightings of the ubiquitous garment, has paired up with charity Free Periods.

Together they want to tackle period poverty and they need your help.

‘How can I tackle a systemic problem that needs to be targeted at goverment-level, with one dress?’ we hear you ask.

But don’t worry, every little helps and your solidarity, by way of fashion, will make great strides.

All you have to do is wear the dress on 22 August and donate £3 to the campaign.

Despite its popularity, not everyone owns one but fret not, you can still get involved. You can donate £2 if you spot someone in it, £4 if it’s a man, or even a Dalmatian whose dots have a likeness to the polka dot staple.

There’s a whole Bingo board to dictate how much you can donate to the campaign. So get your bank cards ready.

Bingo card showing the dress and other associated things with a different amount to donate if you spot them
How many will you spot tomorrow? (Picture: Hot4thespot/Free Periods)

The awareness day is being organised by Faye Oakenfull, the woman behind the Instagram account.

She said: ‘It’s been amazing to (unexpectedly) watch the account blow up over the past few months, and it only seemed right to seize an opportunity to do some social good whilst the page’s popularity is still at its peak.

‘Picking a cause that reflected the same feminist spirit of the incredible community that the dress has created was important to me.

‘Which is why I reached out to Free Periods to ask if we could join in their campaign to tackle period poverty across the world.’

Bingo with images of the dress plus things associated with it like dalmataion which if you spot, you can donate £3
Not sure you’ll find any upside-down dresses though (Picture: Hot4thespot/Free Periods)

Free Periods is a campaign group which doesn’t want a child to miss out on their education because of their period.

Set up by a 17-year-old Amika George, the group successfully campaigned to secure government funding for free, universally available menstrual products in all of England’s schools and colleges.

Gemma Abbott, director of Free Periods said: ‘We are thrilled to have the support of one of the internet’s loveliest, and funniest, communities! Every donation will help us in the fight for menstrual equity, for young people across the world.’

Those wearing the viral dress on Wear The Dress Day (or those who spot a dress-wearer in the wild using the official Bingo cards) can donate via the Free Periods JustGiving page.

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Wetherspoon’s launches gin festival with tropical spirits that will tickle your taste buds

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Two gin brands (Flagingo and Love Gin Liqueurs) served at Wetherspoons, placed on a colourful patterned background
Fancy a tipple? (Picture: Getty)

If gin is your tipple of choice, we have good news.

Wetherspoon’s is currently hosting a 17-day festival focused on the juniper berry-flavoured spirit.

There are 29 gins to choose from including 13 new ones, such as classics with a twist like Hendrick’s Midsummer Solstice (traditionally drunk with a cucumber garnish) or Sipsmith Gin with strawberries and cream.

You could also try a more tropical option, guaranteed to make you feel like you’re on holiday abroad, such as the Flagingo pink gin from Eden Mill.

The pink gin has been described as ‘strutting in with flavours of the Caribbean’ and tastes like mango, pineapple, passion fruit, allspice and ginger.

Other exotic bottles include Boë’s peach and hibiscus tipple and Jawbox’s pineapple and ginger gin liqueur.

Kopparberg, the Swedish brand best known for its fruity ciders, is also on the menu with its strawberry and lime gin, and is joined by Cedar’s Crisp, a distilled non-alcoholic option.

Additional brands include well-known British favourites such as Portobello Road, Tanqueray and Gordon’s gin – both the original and the pink version.

All the gins available during the Wetherspoon's gin festival

  • Aviation American Gin*
  • Beefeater London Blood Orange
  • Boë Peach & Hibiscus Gin Liqueur*
  • Bombay Sapphire
  • Bombay Sapphire English Estate*
  • Ceder’s Crisp*
  • Caorunn (Scotland only)
  • Didsbury Gin Raspberry & Elderflower
  • Eden Mill Love Gin Liqueur Mango & Pineapple*
  • Edinburgh Gin Lemon & Jasmine Gin*
  • Edinburgh Gin Raspberry Liqueur
  • Edinburgh Gin Rhubarb & Ginger Liqueur
  • GinTing
  • Gordon’s
  • Gordon’s Pink Gin
  • Hendrick’s Gin
  • Hendrick’s Midsummer Solstice*
  • Jawbox Pineapple & Ginger Gin Liqueur*
  • Kopparberg Premium Gin Strawberry & Lime*
  • Portobello Road
  • Sipsmith Gin Strawberries & Cream*
  • Tanqueray
  • Tanqueray Flor de Sevilla
  • Tanqueray No. Ten
  • The Lakes Rhubarb & Rosehip Gin Liqueur*
  • Tower Bridge Gin*
  • Zymurgorium FlaGingo Pink Gin*
  • Zymurgorium Realm of the Unicorn Gin Liqueur
  • Zymurgorium Sweet Violet Liqueur

The brands that are new to Wetherspoon’s are marked with an asterisk.

The gin festival launched on Friday 16 August and will run until Sunday 1 September, so there’s still time to treat your palate.

It will take place in all Wetherspoon’s pubs across the UK, however the Caorunn gin will only be available in Scotland.

The number of bottles of each brand will differ per venue, so popular options may become scarce in certain areas (especially with the August Bank Holiday coming up).

Prices start from £2.60 up to £5.05 for gin and a mixer.

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Black women are doing the #DMXChallenge to show how versatile their looks are

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If you’ve scrolled through Twitter and spotted the #DMXchallenge, you might’ve seen video compilations of women and thought ‘wow this woman has a lot of sisters’.

But you’d be wrong because it’s all the same person donning many many different styles of wigs, weaves and natural hair.

Such is the versatility and creativity of a black woman.

The viral hashtag is being used by the group to show the variety of get-ups they can rock every week or so.

Short, long, curly, straight, coloured, textured – all types of hair imaginable are being shown off as part of the trend.

What is the DMX challenge?

It is inspired by the song What They Really Want by rapper DMX who lists the names of 46 different women he has supposedly slept with.

With that number in mind, the women part of the trend are showing off just as many looks (give or take).

The premise of the #DMXchallenge is simple, create a video compilation of all the different fierce looks you’re serving with the song playing in the background.

The pictures can be as old as you like, going back decades (if you have photo evidence of your hairstyles back then).

And then upload on Twitter using the hashtag.

Why are people doing the DMX challenge?

Why do people do any challenges? Because it’s fun and a good way to show off your skills/looks/creations.

The movement is particularly meaningful for black women as they are not often appreciated for the versatility of their hair (among other things).

This hashtag is now being owned by the group to show the world how diverse black beauty is.

What DMX song is the challenge based on?

The 1999 song by DMX is called What They Really Want and features Sisqo (it’s basically him boasting his body count).

The lyrics go: ‘There was Brenda, LaTisha, Linda, Felicia, Dawn, LeShaun, Ines and Alicia, Teresa, Monica, Sharron, Nicki, Lisa, Veronica, Karen, Vicky (damn), Cookie, well I met her in a ice cream parlor, Tonya, Diane, Lori and Carla, Marina, Selena, Katrina, Sabrina, about three Kims (WHAT?) LaToya and Tina, Shelley, Bridget, Cathy, Rasheeda, Kelly, Nicole, Angel, Juanita, Stacy, Tracie, Ronna and Ronda, Donna, Yolanda, Tawana and Wanda.’

That’s all 46 – including the three Kims.

Who is doing the DMX challenge?

Read the headline – black women. Though it has also been co-opted by others. One of the women taking part is Kaylani Felizardo who says she has a look for each name rapped about.

And she rocks each one. She told Metro.co.uk why she took part:

‘I liked the challenge because I used to be really into changing my hairstyles and I documented all of them.

‘I don’t think people ever really realised just how many different hairstyles I’ve done so I thought this was the perfect opportunity to show my hairstyle collection off.

‘It’s definitely a good way to show how versatile black women are and get an appreciation for it because it doesn’t happen as often as it should.

‘I used to name my wigs but I stopped after the fifth wig and gave up on keeping track. I think I’m going to go back in my wig collection and give all of them a name so I can live as that girl when I’m wearing it’.

But will she name them Brenda, LaTisha, Linda – ah whatever, you know the rest.

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Krispy Kreme and KitKat are teaming up to release a doughnut range

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The chocolate and white chocolate Krispy Kreme doughnuts
There’s a white or milk chocolate version (Picture: Krispy Kreme)

Wine and cheese, peanut butter and jam, stawberries and cream – we all already know some incredible food pairings.

So prepare yourself, another great duo is about to come together – Krispy Kreme doughnuts and the KitKat.

The KitKat range will launch nationwide on Monday and honestly, we can’t wait.

So as you are enjoying having a break this Bank Holiday weekend, you can pick up either a white chocolate or milk chocolate KitKat variety – a glazed ring dusted with crumbled pieces of the bar and finished with a classic KitKat finger.

Both the white chocolate and milk chocolate KitKat doughnuts will cost £1.90.

The brands have been teasing the release in a series of tweets over the last few weeks and fans have been waiting for confirmation that they are pairing up.

KitKat challenged the brand to a game of noughts (ring doughnuts) and crosses (made of two KitKat bars).

They also released an email arranging a get together between the two brands and dipped a Krispy Kreme in a KitKat mug.

The biggest clue came when KitKat released a video of the classic foil KitKat but when you rubbed that bit in the middle to reveal the logo, the standard KitKat logo had been replaced with a Krispy Kreme one.

After all the teasing, the rumours of the match made in heaven are finally coming true.

The doughnuts are officially available from Bank Holiday Monday but some fans will get a chance to taste them a day early.

Krispy Kreme is holding launch parties at their Drive Thru Theatre stores nationwide at midnight on 25 August.

The stores taking part will be Bristol, Edinburgh, Enfield, Gateshead, Leeds, Manchester, Peterborough and Shannon Corner.

The first twelve drivers in the drive-thru queue will receive a complimentary limited edition dozen box.

The person who claims the first spot will be crowned the ‘Kat that got the Kreme’, with win a super-sized KitKat box – shaped like a classic two finger bar – full of the new doughnuts.

The only bad news is that it is a limited edition range and will only be available from Monday 26 August until 13 October so get down to your local store to try them before they’re gone.

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Dating app Bumble to host singles party so you can find love offline

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A bumble event with a swimming pool in the photo, along with people standing around it and neon signage for the brand's name
The dating app is hosting a private event for 200 singletons (Picture: Bumble)

Dating apps provide you with thousands, if not millions, of new people to talk to every day.

While it’s a great way to connect with others, constantly swiping left and right – while also trying to keep up dozens of conversations – can be exhausting.

Bumble, a dating app that launched in 2014, is encouraging people to look up from their mobile phones next week and instead engage with fellow singletons in real life.

The brand is hosting a Miami Vice-themed singles party on Wednesday 28 August at a secret London location.

Slip into your finest summery outfit and mingle with 200 single people who are all looking for love (well, we can’t guarantee they’re not looking for lust – but fingers crossed).

To help guests relax and get back into the swing of flirting in real life, Bumble will host a series of interactive games and ice-breaker challenges such as pineapple bowling, as well as ‘love limbo’.

If you meet someone special and feel like it’s fate, you can also check your star sign compatibility at the event.

There will be a special drinks on offer, including themed cocktails such as ‘Picante de la Bumble’, ‘The Hive Spritz’ and ‘Bee-na Colada’ – see what they did there?

The app is known for its female-friendly approach; once two people have matched, the woman has the power as she is the only one who can message first.

In keeping with this theme, organisers have invited DJ Becky Tong and Kamilla from the female-led radio station, Foundation FM, to provide the tunes for the evening.

‘At Bumble we understand the power of real-life connections and it’s important for us to be able to provide experiences which allow people to make the first move in a fun and safe environment,’ said Louise Troen, vice president of marketing and communications at Bumble.

‘The huge growth of our brand, especially outside of the US shows that there is a demand for our offline event series.

‘Our events were born out of our users coming to us and asking for a safe environment for them to connect.

‘Through events like “Bring The Heat”, our aim is to change the way connections are made and empower women to make the first move in all aspects of their life whether that’s dating, friendship, and business.’

Want to try offline dating?

Tickets are free, but you will need the Bumble app to get one.

Go onto date mode and match with ‘Bumble Pool Party’ to apply for a ticket for yourself and a (single) friend.

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Are we boiling eggs all wrong? This man puts them in the kettle and it actually works

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Eggs being boiled in a kettle as shown off by Facebook poster
More importantly, where is this fancy kettle from? (Picture: Facebook/Subtle Asian Traits)

We love hacks that make our lives easier.

Vinegar that softens your washing? Sign us up. Placemats to glam up your house? Sure. Dishmatic sponge that rubs off fake tan? Inject it into our veins.

And now we’ve come across a method of boiling eggs that we can’t wait to run home and try.

The technique involves placing eggs inside a kettle and letting the boiling water cook them.

It was shared by Stephen, a Sydney resident on Facebook group Subtle Asian Traits.

Followers of the million-strong group were tickled by Stephen’s creativity and vowed to try the trick at home.

Stephen simply popped a few eggs in his transparent kettle (fancy) and boiled them to perfection.

Eggs which have been boiled in the kettle
The finished product (Picture: Facebook/Subtle Asian Traits)

Most of us (probably) can’t be bothered hanging around the stove waiting for it to boil so the two-minute kettle trick seems very handy.

Though if you are trying it at home then you might need to turn it on twice or so to let it cook properly.

Luckily Stephen’s kettle is see-through so he can see when it’s ready to be taken out (and avoid the shell cracking and lingering eggy smell).

It’s unknown how long he left them in there but commenters on the post said around 10 minutes should do the job.

Some of them said it was a ‘game-changer’ and they would be testing it for themselves. Others admitted it worked for them in the past.

‘I’ve been doing this stuff for years! Cook hotdogs and everything,’ wrote one.

Another said: ‘I made dumplings in my boiler, ramen in my boiler, eggs in the boiler you can have a full course meal with one of those things.’

We imagine boiler means kettle (it is an international group).

Some pointed out that it’s best to avoid kettles which have an exposed coil as the eggs can crack if they come into contact with the heated area.

Anyway, try for yourself and report back to us.

Apologies if it leaves you drinking egg-flavoured tea for the next few weeks.

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Burger & Lobster launches spicy lobster nuggets

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Burger & Lobster's spicy chicken nuggets in their packets with dipping sauce on the side
Is it spicier than the McDonald’s chicken nugget? (Picture: Burger & Lobster)

Nuggets are having a moment.

A few weeks ago, McDonald’s released a new product – spicy chicken nuggets – and fans were very excited to finally get a fiery version of their favourite poultry snack.

Sadly, the dreamy new treat turned out to severely lack the heat as many people reported that it didn’t taste very spicy at all.

In an attempt to offer people an alternative spicy dish to munch on, Burger & Lobster has just announced the arrival of a fishy variant.

Say hello the spicy lobster nugget.

The crispy golden goodness is like a luxurious version of your regular nugget – which also means it’s a lot pricier.

If you want to give it a go, you’ll need to shell out £15.95 for box of six pieces.

At least you get a zesty lemon dip or truffle mayo with it.

The product will launch in all nine of the Burger & Lobster restaurants across London on 27 August.

If you’d rather eat your nuggets in the comfort of your own home, you can also get them on Deliveroo between 8pm to 10pm every night.

As for if these are spicier than the McDonald’s version, that remains to be seen (but check in later this week and we’ll let you know).

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Weight Watchers kids’ app is a terrifying reminder of my eating disorder

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A screenshot of the Kurbo children's weight loss app
The app encourages children to ‘count every food you put into your body, enter weight goals and score food choices using a traffic-light system (Screenshot picture: WW/Getty Images)

When I read about some of the main features of Weight Watchers’ new dieting app for children and teenagers in the US, I was horrified.

Kurbo, as it’s known, is aimed at people aged eight to 17 years old and claims to help them ‘choose healthier foods, build better habits and lose weight’. The app’s glossy website is full of happy, smiling children in before and after weight loss snaps, some of which are supported by positive testimonials from their parents.

In reality, there is evidence that shows dieting during adolescence can increase the risk of eating disorders.

As someone with a history of anorexia – which started in my teens – Kurbo sounds terrifying.

The app encourages children to ‘count every food you put into your body’, enter weight goals and score food choices using a traffic-light system, where green foods are good and can be eaten freely, but red foods are bad and children should ‘stop and think’ before they eat them.

Users also receive tips on how to compensate for things like birthday cake and weight loss coaches are on hand to ensure children stay on track.

All of this reminds me of the voice of my eating disorder.

I obsessed over every single thing that I put into my mouth, created unrealistic weight goals and categorised food choices as positive or negative and these behaviours only fuelled my anorexia.

Each time that I judged myself based on what I had eaten or the number on the scale, the anorexic voice became even louder. Eventually it took over my life completely and I needed hospital treatment.

I can’t imagine how much harder things would have been if I had grown up with an app that actively encouraged this type of behaviour or had parents who thought this was normal – but a short spell with MyFitnessPal showed me that the results can be devastating.

While there are number of factors that can influence the development of an eating disorder dieting is one of the biggest risk factors identified so far.

I was already at a low weight when I first downloaded it, but wanted to lose more. After following the recommended calorie intake and exercise regime for only three days I passed out at a bus stop at 11pm and had to seek help from strangers.

It would appear that my experience is not unique as a recent study suggests that apps like this have the potential to exacerbate eating disorders.

To show that we should value kids’ mental and physical health over their weight, I have set up a petition to get WeightWatchers to remove the potentially harmful Kurbo app.

Within just a few days, we have received over 80,000 signatures. We have also joined forces with a similar petition in the US, where the app is already readily available.

While there are number of factors that can influence the development of an eating disorder dieting is certainly one. The disorder most commonly rears its ugly head during a person’s teenage years, but there are reports of anorexia being diagnosed in much younger children as well.

Not only could this diet increase the risk of eating disorders, but dieting behaviours can seriously disrupt a child’s physical and hormonal growth patterns during childhood and adolescence.

Young people have high nutrient requirements, especially for calcium and iron, which are really important during the teenage years – yet the ‘green light’ foods in Kurbo seem to consist primarily of fruit and vegetables, which don’t provide high quantities of either.

Many people who diet also often end up regaining the weight they lost because it’s biologically difficult for us to sustain a weight lower than where our body wants to be.

If these children fail their diets and feel terrible about themselves they may jump straight back on the bandwagon and become lifelong customers.

It’s a scary thought.

Metro.co.uk approached Weight Watchers for a comment and its chief scientific officer, Gary Foster PhD, said: ‘Kurbo focuses on behavior change for healthier eating and more activity, not dieting or calorie-counting.

‘Studies show that behavior-based weight management programs do not cause eating disorders. In fact, they provide kids with tools to make balanced food choices and manage their weight in a healthy way.’

We also asked Weight Watchers whether Kurbo will be coming to the UK, but have not received a reply. This article will be updated if we do.

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Granfluencer, 76, models at New York Fashion Week and shows older people can be stylish

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Judith boyd in some of her outfits
Judith showcasing her look (Picture: Nicole Marcelli Photography/PA Real Life)

Judith Boyd is 76 – but that didn’t stop her modelling trendsetting designs at New York Fashion Week.

She describes herself as a ‘granfluencer’ – a senior influencer on social media and she now has over 50,000 followers on Instagram.

The former psychiatric nurse Judith Boyd, a widow with three children and eight grandchildren, named her blog ‘style crone’ and says she wants to use the word to celebrate rather than denigrate older woman.

Judith, of Denver, Colorado, USA, said: ‘Crone used to be a positive description of an older woman, who would have been celebrated in traditional cultures, but today it is used to describe an ‘ugly old woman.

‘I want to change that and raise awareness of the original meaning of the word, to help celebrate older women.

‘Ageism divides the generations, which is bad for both younger and older people, and I think, as a mature woman, it’s never been more important to be out there and visible and talking to people of all ages, which is what I do.’

Surprisingly, Judith only stared modelling a few years ago, aged 72.

‘I joined a modelling agency a couple of years ago,’ she said ‘I’ve done a jewellery ad campaign and I’ve walked on the runway for a Denver designer, opening their show during New York Fashion Week earlier this year.

‘It just goes to show it is never too late.’

Before then, the world of fashion had always been far from her day-to-day life.

She grew up on a farm in rural Minnesota in the American mid-west, with three brothers.

Judith showcasing her look (Daniel Nolan Photography/PA Real Life)
Judith started modelling just a few years ago (Picture: Daniel Nolan Photography/PA Real Life)

She had single aunts who worked in the city and she always regarded them as the epitome of glamour.

She said: ‘I loved dressing up from a young age, although there was no focus on style in my immediate family.

‘I remember having a number of aunts who worked in the city. They were secretaries and teachers and I thought they were very stylish.

‘Back then, you could not teach and be married, so the ones that were teachers must have been single and I did think they were very glamorous.’

Aged 18, Judith left the farm to start her nursing training in the city of Minneapolis, which was four hours away from where she grew up.

Judith started to develop her unique sense of style and her passion for vintage clothes, especially hats, after moving away.

She said: ‘I was working as a psychiatric nurse in the emergency department of a large hospital, so my day was filled with talking to people who were traumatised, suicidal, homicidal and psychotic,” she said.

‘They would be in the middle of the biggest crisis of their lives and I found I was good at talking to them, because I was empathetic.

‘I would think about what to wear to work in the morning, because I no longer had to wear a nursing uniform and, in a way, my clothes prepared me for the day. They allowed me to express myself and I know my patients appreciated that in their day too.’

She married age 23 and had two children, Troy, 49 and Tania, 47, but they separated in 1975 and she moved to Denver in Colorado to be closer to friends.

Two years later in 1977 she met Nelson, who she married in 1980.  The father of her third child, Camille, 38, he loved hats, too, and, like Judith, was innately stylish.

Judith showcasing her look (Nicole Marcelli Photography/PA Real Life)
Judith started her blog alongside her late husband (Picture: Nicole Marcelli Photography/PA Real Life)

She was devastated when he was diagnosed with cancer in 2005, and was taken from her in 2011, aged 62, just nine months after they launched her style blog, which she says helped her to keep going after his death.

‘I carried on blogging to honour Nelson. When he died, it was so hard to think about going on without him, but the blog helped,’ she said.

‘I blogged throughout the time he was dying. He would have a chemotherapy appointment and I would decide what to wear and then write a blog about what you wear to go to chemotherapy with your dying husband.

‘Nelson would take the photos when we were alone together, before his treatment started, so he really helped me lay the foundations for the life I have now and my reinvention of myself after his death.

Judith showcasing her look (Nicole Marcelli Photography/PA Real Life)
Judith campaigns against ageism (Picture: Nicole Marcelli Photography/PA Real Life)

‘I realised when Nelson died that there are things that happen that we cannot control in our lives, but there are also things like what we wear, what we eat and whether we exercise or not, which we do choose.’

Now an avid campaigner against ageism, Judith hopes that her blog and her positive attitude to life in her 70s, will inspire other women to realise that age is just a number.

‘I’ve just started a new project working with widows where I combine my mental health background with my style in telling the story of my own loss and reinvention and I hope that helps inspire others,’ she said.

And by continuing with her blogging and Instagram she feels she has found a way of keeping the love story she shared with Nelson alive.

‘I have had some very positive responses and the modelling has been wonderful,” she said.

‘It really was a way to lighten up a devastating experience, Nelson would have supported it completely.’

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Woman selling glasses on Depop models them on her dog

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We humans find joy in buying weird and wonderful things for our pets almost as much as we love dressing them up.

Our cats and doggos just look so gosh-darned cute when they don human accessories.

Knowing this, one woman has gotten her dog to model things she’s looking to flog.

The seller offered her stuff on Depop – a mobile marketplace where you can buy and sell used goods.

Her obedient four-legged friend, Chubby Watson, could be seen rocking Dolce and Gabbana glasses and a bunch of other chic spectacles.

Chubby is such a star that she has her own Instagram page.

And she rocks glasses in every single post.

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Advertising done right (Picture: lucyanderson339)

Images of Chubby serving looks were shared by another woman, Lucy Anderson on Twitter who wrote: ‘This girl on Depop models glasses she’s selling on her dog. Iconic!’

Others too felt it was iconic, saying it was the ideal advertising method, a sure-fire way to be noticed by customers.

Others were very supportive of Chubby’s modelling career and said they’d be getting their pets involved in the game.

Chubby the dog in more glasses advertised on Depop
Please Chubby, shake our hands too (Picture: lucyanderson339)

‘Would buy just to support this doggo’s modelling career tbh,’ wrote one.

Another said: ‘This girl is LIGHT YEARS ahead’ while another high-key relatable person wrote: ‘Reason no. 272828722992 of why I need a dog!!!!!!’

Some said that no one was ever going to do the glasses justice in the same way as Chubby: ‘But now nobody should want to buy them, because they’ll never look as good as they do on the dog. How can mere humans compare?’

Twitter also turned wholesome for once and users began sharing images of their own dogs showing off shades.

We imagine loads of Depop sellers will now start advertising with their dogs.

But we’re not complaining, not even a little bit.

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Waiting list for new Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Foundation reaches 17,000

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Waiting list for new Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Foundation reaches 17,000
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Be sure to set those reminders for tomorrow for the launch of the new Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Foundation.

And get this, Charlotte Tilbury has confirmed to Metro.co.uk that 17,000 people have joined the waiting list.

It goes without saying that whenever British beauty guru Charlotte Tilbury announces the launch of a new product, we lose our minds.

And it seems the new Airbrush Flawless Foundation is no exception. So why has the new release caused such a frenzy?

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Firstly it will be available in 44 coded shades, across four families; fair, medium, tan and deep and cover three undertones; cool (C), neutral (N) and warm (W). Better yet, the cult brand tested 650 men and women during the shade range selection process. So, there truly is something for everyone.

Secondly, it also claims to reduce the appearance of wrinkles by up to 22% after eight weeks of use and 95% of those who tested it agreed that their pores looked reduced.

And that’s not all. The natural matte finish foundation claims to be hydrating, transfer resistant and humidity proof. Oh and offer flawless coverage.

In other words, it’s meant to be good – real good – so it’s no surprise that thousands of beauty lovers can’t wait to get their hands on the new beauty base.

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The Airbrush Flawless Foundation is joined by the Magic Vanish Colour Correctors, which are clever colour correcting creams ‘to smooth to cheat and conceal pigmentation and brighten the appearance of your under-eye area’ that come in four shades — fair, medium, tan, and deep.

We can’t wait to put the foundation and correctors to the test to see if they’re really worth the hype and money.

Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Foundation (£34) launches online tomorrow (22nd August) at charlottetilbury.com and in worldwide in stores from 6th September.

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Will reducing your carbon footprint actually make a significant difference to climate change?

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How much can one person affect the environment? (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

‘Carbon offsetting’ is a hot topic as of late, due to headlines surrounding The Duke and Duchess of Sussex.

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, have received backlash after jetting off to Nice on Elton John’s private plane, following a trip to Ibiza earlier this month. The musician defended the royals by arguing that he had made a donation to the footprint fund in order to ensure that the flight was ‘carbon neutral’.

However, according to Doug Parr from Greenpeace UK, carbon offsetting does not do enough to stop climate change, which raises an important question.

Can one individual actually make a difference by reducing their carbon footprint?

What is carbon offsetting?

For those not familiar with the term, it refers to how an individual, an organisation or a business can ‘compensate’ for their carbon emissions.

This is usually done by taking part in a scheme that equalises your carbon footprint (or donating money to environmental causes, like Elton claims to have done).

‘There is increasing scepticism among climate researchers about carbon offsetting both in terms of how effective they are, and whether they can feasibly be scaled up,’ Dr Roger Tyers, a research fellow at the University of Southampton, tells Metro.co.uk.

‘In terms of effectiveness, they often create finance for worthwhile projects which plant trees, fund renewable energy, or help poor people in developing countries with “co-benefits” like creating jobs and improving health outcomes. However, there are many ways of donating to charity which can do these same things.

‘If the point of an offset is to “cancel out” present emissions then the timescales are simply too long.

‘A flight today emits carbon today. Offsets are likely too slow to pay back that carbon ‘debt’ because offset money takes time to get to a project, trees take time to grow, etc etc.’

There are additional ways to balance out your footprint that have more of an instant effect.

For instance, in Sweden, a movement called ‘flygskam’ (flying shame) has emerged where young people opt to take trains instead of flying because of how much it affects the environment (greenhouse gas emissions in particular are a concern).

It’s the same reason climate activist Greta Thunberg has chosen to sail on a zero-carbon yacht to the UN Climate Action Summit, a journey that will take her two weeks (compared to an eight-hour plane ride).

Choosing a more environmentally-friendly way to travel is admirable, but is it enough?

‘In regards [to] offsetting as part of an individual’s actions; these can only play a role as part of an overall strategy of calculating and understanding emissions, reducing those emissions where possible though lifestyle changes, and taking responsibility for your unavoidable emissions through offsetting,’ Ciaran Kelly, an environmental strategist and founder of the app, Earth Rewards, tells Metro.co.uk.

‘A simple fact is that every lifestyle action has a carbon impact.

‘Although a lot of the news lately has been about the carbon impacts of flying, we should look at and understand the emissions across our whole lifestyle. A sensible way to look at this is creating a balance; on one side of the equation you have your lifestyle emissions, and on the other side you have the ability to reduce those emissions.  For the remaining emissions, people can create a carbon balance through offsetting.’

Making direct lifestyle choices can then have a positive effect, but the concern is that unless offsetting carbon footprint becomes mandatory, not enough people will do it.

‘In terms of scaling, my own research as well as others’ suggests that if offsets remain voluntary, then it will remain marginal and most people simply won’t buy them,’ said Dr Rogers.

‘There are some motivated “green travellers” and many large companies who purchase offsets already, but the vast majority of flights, probably well over 90% – are not offset – people simply want to pay the least amount possible and avoid extra charges.

‘Globally most people still do not make the link between flying and climate change so don’t see the point in paying more than they need to.’

Interestingly, in the UK, majority of flights taken every year (70%) are by 15% of the population.

As such, to tackle climate change on a wider scale, Dr Rogers proposes an alternative solution to carbon offsetting: mandatory carbon tax, also known as a Frequent Flier Levy (FFL).

‘This would be a fair way to reduce demand for flights in the first place, rather than allow flying to grow and grow and try and clean up its pollution afterwards through offsets.

‘Money raised from a FFL could be used to invest in land-based transport and/or clean aviation fuel like “electrofuels” instead so that, in the long-term, we can have ‘sustainable aviation’ which does not use dirty kerosene.

‘Passenger numbers are predicted to double over the next 20 years, and as other sectors decarbonise, aviation could account for as much as 22% of global emissions.’

‘In that context, voluntary offsetting simply isn’t going to cut it.’

It seems that being aware of your carbon footprint and doing your best to reduce it can make a difference – but on a wider scale, unless others are doing the same.

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I want every owner of that Zara dress to wear it tomorrow

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Why am I channeling the spirit of a 1970s tampon commercial and risking the unholy alliance of a heavy period and a white outfit? (Picture: Instagram/ellencscott; Zara)

A white spotty dress may not seem like the ideal attire for someone who spends her life worrying about periods and whose menstrual tracking app tells her that day one of her period is due imminently.

And yet tomorrow this period poverty campaigner will be joining hundreds of others in wearing just that.

Why am I channeling the spirit of a 1970s tampon commercial and risking the unholy alliance of a heavy period and a white outfit?

Because Thursday 22nd August marks Hot4TheSpot’s ‘Wear the Dress Day’, a chance for owners of *that* Zara dress to join together in polka dot triumph in aid of the Free Periods campaign to tackle period poverty.

As a director of Free Periods (and a proud owner of the dress), I am excited to have this opportunity to share our mission anew. We are delighted to have played our part in securing government funding for free period products in all English schools and colleges, beginning in January 2020, but there is still so much work to do.

In the UK, our aim is to ensure that the provision of free products is rolled out effectively in England, that the progress we have already seen in Scotland and Wales is maintained and that equivalent provision is made in Northern Ireland (where the ongoing political impasse has made policy change as yet unattainable).

In all cases, we wish to see policies for free menstrual products in schools and colleges enshrined in legislation, with long-term, sustainable and ring-fenced funding commitments.

The disenfranchisement that begins when a child misses out on their education has an enduring, insidious effect for a lifetime. It is not acceptable that the provision of this basic necessity could become subject to the vagaries of incumbent politicians.

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With a sea of polka dots, I believe we can make a real difference (Picture: Zara)

We are also eager to build a global community of period poverty activists with whom we can share our experiences of building a grassroots movement, political lobbying and legal campaigning. We want to support others who are fighting for young people to have access to the period products they need.

We are equally determined to tackle the stifling stigma that persists around periods. As Amika George, Free Periods Founder, says ‘Period taboo still runs deep, and positioning something that’s natural and normal as dirty and shameful pulls us further away from our collective goal of achieving gender equality.

‘We want everyone to believe that periods are not embarrassing, that we all have horror stories, that everyone’s period experiences can be different, and we want to invite men into that dialogue.’

As a movement that began with a viral petition, we firmly believe in the power of online activism. We so often hear of the negatives of social media, but Free Periods stands as testament to the power of building a virtual community to make positive change in the offline world. Social media has disrupted our political landscape and we can all now fight for a seat at the table.

The dress phenomenon, and Faye Oakenfull’s brilliantly positive @Hot4TheSpot Instagram, have similarly underlined the capacity of an online community to empower its members. This charming army of dress-lovers, mobilised in support of Free Periods are an excellent reminder, especially in such trying times, that kindness and compassion prevail.

So, let us all wear our spotty dresses on Thursday in honour of a sisterhood that puts two fingers up at our treacherous ‘Who wore it best?’ magazine culture and in aid of a campaign that is striving to ensure that periods don’t hold any child back from reaching their potential.

Artist Yayoi Kusama once said, ‘With just one polka dot, nothing can be achieved.’

With a sea of polka dots, I believe we can make a real difference.

Wear the Dress Day is on Thursday 22nd August. Please wear your favourite polka dots, or look out for others in the dress, and donate £3 to Free Periods here: http://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/freeperiodsxhot4thespot

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People who use emoji have more sex, suggest studies

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An emoji can say a thousand words… or just one (Picture: Getty/Metro.co.uk)

Could an emoji be the key to a brilliant sex life?

We’d say a resounding no, but according to new research, your use of emoji could have a positive impact on your experience of sex and relationships.

Two studies, from the Kinsey Institute at the Indiana University and Lake Forest College in Illinois, found that people who use emoji and emoticons regularly went on more dates and engaged in sexual activity more often than their non-emoji-using counterparts.

Researchers surveyed more than 5,300 single American adults aged between 18 and 94, finding that 30% of them use emoji or old school emoticons when having conversations with dates.

The second study saw researchers analysing the emoji use and sexual lives of 275 people between the ages of 18 and 71, and found that those who frequently used emoji were more ‘successful’ in the world of dating.

Now, it’s worth noting that a correlation doesn’t mean an obvious cause and effect. Throwing a load of aubergine emoji into your messages won’t guarantee you action.

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It’s possible that people who use emoji are also more confident, or funnier, or even that they’re younger and more likely to be going on loads of dates.

The people in the study who regularly used emoji said they did so because it helped to maintain a connection with first dates, creating intimacy in fewer characters.

Researchers said: ‘Emojis appear to be an important aspect of social behavior in today’s digital world, and can be used strategically as affective signals, particularly in the domain of human courtship.’

So essentially, they’re an easy way to get across emotions, whether that’s an eagerness to see someone with a heart eyes emoji or a quick reminder of your intentions in the form of an aubergine.

The study didn’t go into the exact emoji to use, unfortunately, but previous research shows that the most common emoji used by online daters is the kissing winky face – so perhaps start there.

Just don’t go overboard. Another survey of 1,000 online daters found ‘using lots of emoji’ to be a major turn-off.

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Daily Fitness Challenge: Can you do high knees for a minute?

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High knees are a classic move that will work up a sweat in seconds.

It may seem easy, but if you’re really driving your knees up towards your chest – you’ll soon start to feel it.

Go for a minute at the end of your workout for a final cardio challenge.

Throughout this Staying Active summer series, fitness experts Elia and Amanda – both qualified instructors at Flykick – will be on hand to show you how to do each challenge and give you their top tips.

Our daily challenges are perfect to try at home, at the gym or in the park. They are designed to get you moving every day.

Check back every day to see what the next challenge is – you could even film your progress to make a record of how far you’ve come.

The aim is to be active every day for six weeks over summer. Today’s challenge will test different muscle groups and help to improve your muscle performance.

These daily challenges can be done on their own, or you can include them in larger workout – it’s totally up to you. As long as you’re moving, that’s what matters.

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We know doing the same fitness routine every week can get really tedious, trying a new challenge every day will keep your fitness fresh and fun – and you might even learn some new moves.

How to do high knees

Start standing with your feet hip-width apart.

Quickly drive your right right knee up so that it level with your hips., bring the same leg back to the ground immediately drive the left knee up.

You’re basically hopping – stay light on the balls of your feet as you lift each leg.

Make sure you are engaging your stomach muscles as you lift each leg.

I am Team GB

Toyota has teamed up with Team GB to re-launch the hugely successful participation campaign ‘I am Team GB’.

Inspired by the achievements of Team GB athletes and the amazing efforts of local community heroes, Team GB has created ‘The Nation’s Biggest Sports Day’, which will take place on the 24thAugust.

Over the weekend, there will be hundreds of free and fun activities across the country, put on by an army of volunteers; the ‘I am Team GB Games Makers’.

To Join the Team and be part of The Nation’s Biggest Sports Day sign up at: www.IAmTeamGB.com

Try this no-equipment workout and ditch the gym this summer

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Soak up the last of the summer sun. (Picture: Getty)

Summer is dwindling. The leaves are getting crunchier. We can almost smell the fireworks.

But it’s not over yet people – and this bank holiday weekend is set to be a scorcher. Which means there is time to squeeze in a few more outdoor workouts before the cold sets in.

But how can you work out effectively in the great outdoors? Is there a way to challenge your entire body without weights, a spin bike, or any kind of kit?

We asked the Marvin Burton, head of fitness at Anytime Fitness, to create a bespoke no-equipment workout – perfect for sunny days when you don’t want to be cooped up in a gym.

For each exercise, perform three sets of 10 reps and rest for 60 seconds between each set.

Walk out push-up

A great way of using your body as resistance against gravity and being in control of the movement.

Transitioning from a standing to prone position (lying flat with chest down) is very demanding and will elevate your heart rate.

The push-up is only a small component of this exercise. The strength in your shoulders and core will be improved and therefore give a greater return from the exercise.

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Step-by-step:

  1. Bend forward at the waist and place your hands on the floor.
  2. Walk your hands out until your body is straight in the top position of a push-up.
  3. Perform a push-up then walk your hands back in and return to the upright position.

Ballerina butt lift

Who doesn’t want a good set of glutes?

More importantly, from a health perspective having a strong set of glutes and hamstrings will dramatically reduce your chances of back injury or pain.

Woman doing a ballerina butt lift
(Picture: Anytime Fitness)

Step-by-step:

  1. Lie face down with your head on your hands, your arms crossed in front with your knees bent and heels touching.
  2. Lift your upper legs off the floor as high as possible as you squeeze your glutes.
  3. Lower and repeat

Bench side bridge

If you’re out in the park, head to the nearest unoccupied bench and give this a go.

I like using the bench because it allows us to move the hips up and down and really stretch and develop the core muscles.

Although the position of being inclined may take some pressure off the shoulders, it certainly won’t from the core.

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(Picture: Anytime Fitness)

Step-by-step:

  1. Lie on your side on the edge of a bench with your feet on the floor, legs straight out on top of one another.
  2. Raise your body up, resting on your forearm on the bench and your foot on the floor.
  • Keep your body in a straight line, elbow directly under your shoulder
  • Complete all reps on one side before switching to the other side

Bench glute bridge

Hang on to that bench as I’ve got another glute exercise for you.

An inclined glute bridge is my favourite variation of this exercise as it creates a greater distance to travel and therefore the hip joint can extend and flex much more.

Man doing a bench glute bridge
(Picture: Anytime Fitness)

Step-by-step:

  1. Lie on your back with your knees bent and feet up on a bench, placing your hands at your sides.
  2. Raise your back and hips off the floor, trying to make a straight line from your knees to your shoulders.
  • Lower yourself back to the floor and repeat

Corkscrew

A popular exercise in Pilates classes, the corkscrew is a gruelling exercise for the core.

If you are finding it difficult to perform the circles, then first try holding the position to build strength.

This exercise requires 100% effort, or you will drop your legs to the floor.

As a coach, it’s a great exercise because I can see how strong a client really is and how hard they are willing to work.

This is a brutal exercise but remember, in true Pilates style, control the movement!

Woman doing a corkscrew exercise
(Picture: Anytime Fitness)

Step-by-step:

  1. Lie on your back with your legs straight up, arms by your sides, palms down and your feet turned out slightly, keeping your heels touching.
  2. Rotate your legs down to one side, around and up the other side, drawing a big circle with your feet.
  3. Reverse the direction.

All of these moves are also available on the Anytime Workouts app for Anytime Fitness members.

I am Team GB

Toyota has teamed up with Team GB to re-launch the hugely successful participation campaign ‘I am Team GB’.

Inspired by the achievements of Team GB athletes and the amazing efforts of local community heroes, Team GB has created ‘The Nation’s Biggest Sports Day’, which will take place on the 24thAugust.

Over the weekend, there will be hundreds of free and fun activities across the country, put on by an army of volunteers; the ‘I am Team GB Games Makers’.

To Join the Team and be part of The Nation’s Biggest Sports Day sign up at: www.IAmTeamGB.com

These are some of the rarest baby names in England and Wales right now

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If you’re looking for an unusual name for your baby, this list is a good place to start (Picture: Getty)

We often share lists of the most popular baby names around the world.

That’s interesting, sure, but it’s not particularly helpful if you’re trying to give your baby a name no one else in their class will have… unless you look at those popular monikers as a list of what not to name your kid.

Perhaps this list will be more helpful.

According to the most recent data from the ONS, for babies born in 2017, there are more than 300,000 names that were so rare they were only given to three babies in England and Wales that year.

Now, if you’re mathematically minded, you might be thinking something along the lines of ‘wait, surely there are names that were only given to two babies that year, or one, or none at all… wouldn’t those be the rarest?’

You would be correct. There are names out there who haven’t been given to any babies at all, ever, but the tricky part is that we don’t know them. We’d have to go through a major process of elimination to figure those out, as well as coming up with new names that don’t yet formally exist. If you want your child to have a really unusual name, your best bet is making one up entirely from scratch. Best of luck.

The ONS only shares names given to at least three babies in an effort to protect the privacy of those unusually named kiddos. Essentially this stops you from easily tracking down the one baby named Puddingcup (we made that name up, please don’t try to search it) and making their parents change their child’s name because it’s the one you had chosen.

Now, as we mentioned, the number of names on the list are in the thousands, so we’re not going to list them all.

Handily enough, Cosmopolitan went through all the names and picked one for each letter of the alphabet for both boys and girls. We like the ones they picked, so here we go.

Girls' names given to just three babies in 2017:

  • Adalaide
  • Breya
  • Clemmie
  • Delphie
  • Eugenia
  • Franca
  • Geneva
  • Hennessey
  • Israella
  • Joules
  • Kinley
  • Lorie
  • Meriel
  • Noomi
  • October
  • Prue
  • Quincy
  • Reeve
  • Sunday
  • Tulip
  • Umi
  • Vayda
  • Wahida
  • Xyla
  • Ysabella
  • Zephy

Boys' names given to just three babies in 2017:

  • Axton
  • Bowe
  • Colm
  • Denby
  • Emory
  • Ferris
  • Grae
  • Hansel
  • Iden
  • Jacobus
  • Kent
  • Lowan
  • Mathis
  • Niles
  • Osten
  • Phileas
  • Quintus
  • Reese
  • Sairus
  • Thibault
  • Ugo
  • Volkan
  • Whittaker
  • Xan
  • Yonas
  • Zayde

Again, bear in mind that there are at three babies currently holding each of these names, so if you have your heart set on a baby name shared by no one else, you’ll have to keep thinking.

But the names above are a good place to start. You could just change a couple of letters and voila, a new name. Sunday could be Sumday, Zephy becomes Zetty, and Hansel becomes Mansel. Easy.

In case you are interested in the common names to avoid, here are the most popular names in England in Wales for babies born in 2017.

They’re pretty lovely, but you will end up with three kids in your baby’s class with the same name if you choose one from this list.

Most popular girls' names in England and Wales in 2017:

  1. Olivia
  2. Amelia
  3. Isla
  4. Ava
  5. Emily
  6. Isabella
  7. Mia
  8. Poppy
  9. Ella
  10. Lily

Most popular boys' names in England and Wales in 2017:

  1. Oliver
  2. Harry
  3. George
  4. Noah
  5. Jack
  6. Jacob
  7. Leo
  8. Oscar
  9. Charlie
  10. Muhammad

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My Label and Me: Having a stutter has kept me grounded

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From the moment I introduce myself my label becomes apparent. My name is Sascha. But it will come out sounding more like S-s-s-Sascha or Ssssssascha. I am a stutterer.

It began when I was four. No one knows why, as physically there is nothing wrong with me. Speech therapists say it could have to do with emotional trauma I experienced at a young age.

My mum’s mum was convinced it was because of a scare I once got from falling on the stairs. She’d hide behind doors and leap out at me in the hopes of reversing the damage by scaring me anew.

Although she’d startle me every time, it did nothing to rid me of my speech impediment.

For a little over a year, I attended a special school for children with speech difficulties and during one exercise I remember being asked to repeat my name over and over.

I think the therapist thought I’d get fed up and eventually pronounce it correctly. But I never did. Still, I remained calm. I didn’t let it affect me.

Sascha Schmidt
When I was 16, a girl at school sat down next to me and when she heard me stutter got up and left (Picture: Kai Buck/Metro.co.uk)

At mainstream school, I was never ridiculed. Or if I was it was done so behind my back.

Perhaps because I was respected by my classmates, was funny and good at sports I avoided hurtful comments. I remember being popular and not letting my stutter get in the way of making friends.

However, a school report from when I was seven said that my communication skills were lacking – so in retrospect, I think I must have felt some shame around my stuttering.

Although I found friends more forgiving, women were a different matter. When I was 16, a girl at school sat down next to me and when she heard me stutter got up and left.

Then when I was 19, a girl at a party simply walked away once I opened my mouth, despite the two of us have spent the night eyeing each other from across the room.

It was harsh, yet fortunately, I had enough self-esteem to shrug it off.

Sascha Schmidt
I once I told a woman I fancied my name was S-s-s-Sascha with three s’s. It helped to break the ice (Picture: Kai Buck/Metro.co.uk)

I’ve definitely faced challenges and there were times when I thought I was at a disadvantage because I’d leave restaurants having ordered something I didn’t want for the sole reason of wanting to avoid items on the menu that began with a vowel.

Or thinking I’d have to choose a profession based on how much speaking would be involved. Teaching, for example, was never going to be an option.

But I learnt to tell people up front that I stuttered. It took the pressure off. As a result I’d sometimes not stutter at all.

At university, I remember introducing myself to a professor and he responded by cracking a stutterer joke. I thought it was fantastic.

Or once I told a woman I fancied my name was S-s-s-Sascha with three s’s. It helped to break the ice.

But there are people who think I’m faking it. They mock or straight up laugh in my face. They’re mortified when I tell them I actually have a stutter.

Sascha Schmidt
Someday I hope to write a self-help book for family members of children who stutter (Picture: Kai Buck/Metro.co.uk)

One woman at the deli counter of a supermarket couldn’t look me in the eye afterwards. Another gave me a free drink at the pub.

I never thought my stuttering would influence how I was going to live my life. I have always been self-confident, thanks in part to my handsome looks, as well as being an open, charming and friendly person.

Although I do sometimes wonder what life would have been like for me had I not stuttered. I probably would have been extremely arrogant. Being a stutterer, I think, has kept me grounded.

My label may be stutterer but I am so much more than that. I’m also a son, a brother, a friend, a boyfriend, an athlete, as well as a successful architect running my own company.

Someday I hope to write a self-help book for family members of children who stutter. It would be filled with humorous anecdotes.

It’s important to let people know that just because someone has a speech impediment it is still possible for them to lead a normal life.

Labels

Labels is an exclusive series that hears from individuals who have been labelled – whether that be by society, a job title, or a diagnosis. Throughout the project, writers will share how having these words ascribed to them shaped their identity  positively or negatively  and what the label means to them.

If you would like to get involved please email jess.austin@metro.co.uk

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