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Mum working to make her home plastic-free has saved £1,500 by switching to reusable nappies

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Sara Dallat, 24, with her daughters Elena and Maggie (Picture: PA Real Life)

When stay-at-home mum Sara Dallat, 24, welcomed her daughters Maggie, one, and Elena, eight months, she started to worry about what the future will look like for the next generation.

She decided to make a change, starting by dropping the amount of plastic she uses in the home.

One major swap was trading in disposable diapers for reusable nappies, which she says has saved her £1, 500.

Sara is now sharing her journey of going plastic-free – and how much money it’s saved her – in the hopes of inspiring other parents to do their bit to lessen their impact on the environment.

The mum, from Coleraine in County Londonderry, Northern Ireland, said: ‘When I became a parent, I realised that the damage people were causing to the planet wasn’t just impacting my future, it was impacting my children’s future too.

‘I don’t think people realise that if we don’t start looking after the planet now then it’ll be a disaster for everyone.

‘It will be a catastrophe for the natural world. First the animals will go, then people will follow.

‘I’ve definitely saved money being more eco-friendly.

‘I’m just getting what I need, and I’m not overbuying or stockpiling.

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Swapping to resuable nappies has saved the mum £1,500 so far (Picture: PA Real Life)

‘Especially in terms of stuff for the girls – with nappies alone I must’ve saved £1,500 in two years by using reusable cloth versions.’

It’s not always easy to go zero-waste straight away.

Sara is keen to encourage people to start small and do what they can – even if that’s simply picking up a bit of litter when you’re strolling through the park.

Her journey to doing more for the environment began back in 2018, after she gave birth to Maggie and decided to start reducing her household waste.

‘To me it was a no brainer,’ she said. ‘I wanted to raise my children in an environmentally-friendly way.

‘I was a first-time mum with no experience of using normal single use disposable nappies, so I went straight in for cloth versions.

‘They come in all sorts of funky colours and patterns and one size fits all.

‘The nappies I’ve got vary from £4.99 up to £17 and have fitted Maggie since she was a baby right up until she was potty trained.

‘Literally all you do is chuck them in the washing machine, hang them out to dry and use them time and time again.’

With disposable nappies costing up to just £17 to be used time and time again, Sara says it has also meant large savings for the family.

Sara's tips for going zero-waste

  • It doesn’t have to be a big change – grab a fork from your kitchen to take out to eat, rather than using a plastic one. Or carry a reusable water bottle or coffee cup when you are out and about.
  • Think about the acts you perform every day like brushing your teeth or going to the toilet. Getting a bamboo toothbrush or ethically sourced toilet paper makes a big difference, because it’s something you use all the time.
  • Take your journey gradually, don’t try and overhaul your life overnight, because either will not stick to it, or you will end up wasting lots of plastic by throwing it away before it has been used to its full capacity
  • Stop stockpiling! If lots of people opened up the kitchen cupboard, they would find five bottles of fairy liquid – that is five bottles of plastic, just sitting there
  • Stop having a ‘throwaway’ mindset. Many items have many different uses – you just have to be a little inventive

She added: ‘As a single mum of two, I don’t have time to quickly pop to the shop if I run out of something.

‘So, having reusable nappies is more convenient for me, too.’

As well as being mindful of what she buys, Sara has tried to make her house plastic free.

She started with the bathroom, swapping plastic toothbrushes for bamboo versions, trading plastic containers for solid bars of shampoos, soaps, and conditioners, and signing up to Who Gives A Crap?, a subscription service that delivers recycled toilet rolls to your door.

The mum has even made sure her hair dyeing routine isn’t contributing to household waste, using a bamboo mixing bowl and an aluminium cap.

Sara has also swapped using traditional sanitary towels in favour of a menstrual cup, which alongside reducing waste saves her plenty of money longterm.

Not only is it better for the environment, but at £25 per cup – which is meant to last for around a decade – compared to £3 for a packet of 18 tampons, it saves a fortune.

The next area to tackle on Sara’s plastic-free mission is the kitchen, where she’s already made sure to buy cutlery from charity shops and takes her own containers to the local refill store rather than buying packaged goods.

‘This also means we only buy what we need, rather than getting a family size box of Coco Pops, which is too big for us,’ she explains.

‘There’s a farm near us which has just started doing refillable milk – so, just like the refill store, you bring you own container and they fill it up for you,” she said.

‘For meat, I always go to the local farmer or butcher, because that way you’re putting money back into your local economy and your meat’s not been transported from far away, so you save on air travel and reduce the carbon footprint.’

Only dressing herself and her daughters in ethically sourced clothes is also important to the eco-mum.

She said: ‘Fast fashion is a huge problem for the planet.

sara dallat in bed with her daughters
Sara started her zero-waste journey after the arrival of her kids made her worry about the future (Picture: PA Real Life)

‘I only buy clothes made from organic cotton, so you can trace where it comes from and know that people in the factories are being treated well and paid a fair wage.

‘The material is also a lot better for Maggie’s sensitive skin than cheap supermarket clothes.

‘It can end up being a bit pricey, but there’s a huge secondhand market for these clothes.

‘I get all my clothes and the girls’ clothes from eBay or Facebook Marketplace – a T-shirt can cost £2 or £3 and skirts or trousers can cost £5 or £6.

‘And the clothes last so much longer. Maggie has her favourite T-shirt and trousers that she’s worn to death and I’ve washed them every day.

‘Yes, they have a few stains, but she’s a child, so that doesn’t matter, and they still look great.’

If you’re finding this all a bit intimidating, be assured that Sara admits she’s far from perfect.

It’s not about getting everything right, but doing what you can.

‘I need a car to get around, so I can’t give that up and I need the convenience of using a lightweight plastic pram,’ said Sara.

‘Also, with the girls’ toys, I’d rather buy a big hunk of plastic from a charity shop than a brand new wooden toy they don’t use.

‘At least when the toy is secondhand it’s been loved already, and it can be loved again.

“This journey of awareness is about finding what fits with your family and what works for your life – it’s not a one size fits all sort of thing.’

‘People are at home a lot more, so they can just start looking at little habits or things that they can easily change.

‘You don’t have to it all at once. If you chucked all your plastic out at once, it would actually be detrimental to the planet.

‘It’s all about making small changes that work for you and your family – whether that’s swapping your toilet roll or, rather than throwing plastic away, finding a new use for it.

‘Sometimes the smallest change can have the biggest impact.’

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These hijabi Muslim women are slayers of the fashion game

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The style, the confidence (Picture: @itsnajmaahmed / @penneyyproud / @douaa_el_azizi)

There are some people that are absolutely killing the fashion game, hether they’re lesbians from China bossing street fashion or grandmas who are dripping in style.

Also nailing their sartorial choices are Muslim women, specifically those who wear a hijab.

Whether in a niqab (face covering), a turban-style scarf, an abaya (a burqa), or even a triangular scarf that is commonly used during prayers, these hijabi Muslim women know a thing or two about how to dress up.

After Twitter user Nini who goes by the name @seokthestallion shared a thread of hijabi women in their elements, it blew up.

The best-dressed hijabi edition thread amassed more than 200,000 likes and each fashionista got plenty of love.

But Nini had to also remind followers not to post any Islamaphobic content.

She wrote: ‘I better not see Islamophobic comments or people shaming these women in any way (not on their hijab style, not on how their clothes and NONE of that).’

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Najma is a Swedish-Somali influencer living in Paris (Picture: @itsnajmaahmed)

One of the women featured in the thread is Najma Ahmed, a Swedish-Somali influencer living in Paris.

She tells Metro.co.uk: ‘What inspires my fashion is the environment I’m in. When I’m in Paris I will dress a little more minimalistic and neutral and when I’m in Sweden I dress more colourful.

‘Also I like to take inspiration from social media and old movies from the ’80s and ’90s.’

Asked about her fashion tips, Najma says: ‘Being comfortable is a major key for me.

‘When I feel comfortable with what I’m wearing I’m automatically more confident.

‘I have seen the thread and it made me so happy to see other inspirational Muslim hijabs get the recognition that they deserve.

‘They are all so gorgeous and stylish and I’m more than honoured to be in the same thread as them.’

Check out and appreciate the rest of the women on the thread below:

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Two-bed Victorian townhouse in London valued at £750,000 is being raffled off for £2 a ticket

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The house, valued at £750,000 is being sold through a raffle for £2 a ticket (Picture: Triangle News)

Even as property prices fall, many of us have given up our dreams of ever owning a home… especially in London.

And with the average price of a home in the capital coming in at around the £470,000 mark, it’s not surprising that news of yet another property raffle will get our ears pricked up.

This time around, it’s a home worth £750,000 up for grabs.

A family is raffling off their two-bedroom home in Denmark Hill, south London, for just £2 a ticket, believing a raffle is the best way to ensure the house will definitely sell.

If you imagine actually winning the home for just £2, it’s a pretty marvelous deal.

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The two-bedroom house spans 1,023 square foot (Picture: Triangle News)

The Victorian-era townhouse spans 1,023 square feet and has two bedrooms, two bathrooms, a huge 8ft long garden, and a terrace.

The interiors are pretty lovely, with high ceilings and bay windows.

There doesn’t seem to be anything horribly wrong with the house that’s prompting the family to pick up and move, and it’s not haunted (sadly).

Instead, the family are keen to move to a bigger home with more bedrooms as they plan to have more children.

A FAMILY are flogging raffle tickets to their £750,000 Denmark Hill, south London home for just ??2 a pop
The family want to move to somewhere bigger because they plan to have more children (Picture: Triangle News)
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They hope the raffle will give someone the change to get on the property ladder (Picture: Triangle News)

The current owner of the home, dad-of-one James Melville, 36, said he was pleasantly surprised at the valuation figure, but worried the price might decrease if he waited for the pandemic to pass.

A raffle seemed like a good way to generate interest and ensure the house sells. Plus, it might give someone who can’t afford to get on the property ladder a chance at their first home, which is nice.

James said: ‘Who knows, by November, if coronavirus will still be kicking around by then.

‘With a new born baby, we could be out of a home by Christmas if the home goes and we haven’t found somewhere new to live by then. My wife is very patient with me.

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Cat not included (Picture: Triangle News)
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The second bedroom (Picture: Triangle News)

‘We believe we have a lovely home and by raffling it off with a deadline, it enables us to plan.

‘It gives someone who couldn’t otherwise afford it a chance at owning it.’

James, who works in finance and currently lives at the property with his nutritionist wife, Lucy, and their ten-month-old daughter, bought the home for £612,000 back in 2015.

He thought it was a good deal as at the time similar homes in the area were going for upwards of £700,000.

James then spent thousands doing the house up and installing a new bathroom, and is pretty proud of his work.

‘The home really is beautiful,’ he says. ‘It is decorated to my wife’s taste and is beautifully done.

‘The garden is enormous by London standards.

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The garden is 8ft long (Picture: Triangle News)

‘You could roll a cricket ball down it and it has two sheds, so tons of storage space.

‘Downstairs is big enough to swing a few cats around.

‘We will be sad to leave but you can’t stay still in life.

‘With a new born and God willing, another soon, we need a larger place to live.’

James is hoping to sell 600,000 tickets, which would total £1.2million, leaving a surplus of £450,000 that James said will cover solicitor fees and marketing costs.

The competition is running on raffle-house.com. the website James set up with his business partner Benno Spencer, and will close on 30 November.

The pair have successfully raffled off other homes before, including a £500,000 home in east London, as well as a brand new Land Rover, won by 27-year-old Niomi Boontam.

You can enter by heading to the Raffle House website.

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People are using strategically placed shower curtains to make their gardens look bigger on social media

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Looks fab (Picture: Facebook.Gardening on a Budget Official)

The weather’s been nice (by nice, we mean hot as Hell) and we’ve been spending a lot of time outdoors.

Those with a garden have likely been sunbathing or floating on their inflatable pool during the heatwave – and Instagramming every moment.

But while some of us have dreams of showing off our gardens online, we might not have enough space for them to be truly enviable.

Handily, some people have come up with a trick: using shower curtains as an optical illusion, to make gardens seem much larger on social media than they really are.

The trick has been spreading after members of Facebook group Gardening on a Budget Official showed off their DIY jobs.

The images on the shower curtains are usually pictures taken outside in dreamy destinations, showing doorways, paths, and stairs, to make the garden appear to extend further.

Some have also added fairy lights to give the vision that added rustic feel.

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This woman added wooden bits to make it look like a real door (Picture: Facebook.Gardening on a Budget Official)

It’s a pretty simple illusion to create. Just find a shower curtain that has the design you want – choose something outside like a nice street or a stairway and then add it to a fence or garden wall.

One woman even added thin wooden bits to her curtain to create the illusion of an open door, complete with handles.

Add some gravel or garden accessories for effect and voila.

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Add some colour to your garden (Picture: Facebook.Gardening on a Budget Official)

Facebookers have been impressed with the staged gardens, commenting on how ‘real’ they look.

One person said the curtain trend was ‘awesome’ while another commented at one of the gardens, saying: ‘This is stunning’.

A third person said the simple trick was ‘really effective’.

If you don’t have a garden, you could always try the balcony?

And if you’re trying to create nature vibes within the house, then make sure to take good care of your houseplants during the heatwave.

We previously chatted with expert Chris Bonnett from GardeningExpress for his wisdom on helping houseplants survive and thrive in the heat.

Check out his tips for ensuring your plants can live their best life during the hot weather.

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Lonely dog given up for adoption as key worker owner had to work 12-hour shifts in lockdown

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Eight-year-old Shar Pei Bella Boo is up for adoption after her owner’s working patterns in lockdown left her anxious and lonely (Picture: Parrot & Pineapple | Pooch & Pineapple | Rophotographs)

Lots of pets have enjoyed extra quality time with their owners in lockdown thanks to a move towards home-working.

But that hasn’t been the case for everyone.

Eight-year-old Shar Pei Bella Boo was left desperately lonely due to her owner having to work 12-hour shifts as a key worker in the pandemic.

Going entire days without any company, Bella Boo was lonely and bored, which soon led to symptoms of anxiety.

She began to make whining noises and cause damage to the property, and it was clear the dog wasn’t happy.

So her owner had to take the difficult decision to give Bella Boo up for adoption, so she could have a chance at finding a home where she’d be showered with all the love and attention she deserves.

Thankfully, Bella Boo’s owner was able to find support through Mayhew Animal Home, who settled the pooch in her own kennel so she could relax and adapt before they placed her up for adoption.

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She’s sweet and loves affection, but is lacking in confidence (Picture: Parrot & Pineapple | Pooch & Pineapple | Rophotographs)

The loneliness of lockdown had left Bella Boo with anxiety, as well as making her shy and nervous around new people.

It will take time for Bella Boo to learn to trust again and be able to be alone, but she’s still a gentle and friendly dog who forms strong bonds and loves attention.

In the right environment, she’s a calm and well-behaved dog who will show her affectionate side once she gets to know you, and loves going on walks and spending time outside.

Staff at the shelter have developed a personalised care plan to get Bella Boo feeling confident again, and are now looking for a home that will keep up this work.

Bella Boo will need owners who are at home a lot to give her plenty of companionship and who have experience of dog ownership.

If you think you could be the right match, you can get in touch through the Mayhew website.

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Homemade nest lures golden eagles back to Highland estate for first time in 40 years

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Golden eagle chicks haven’t hatched there for four decades (Credits: BBC)

The Dundreggan estate in the Highlands has seen its first golden eagle chick fledge in 40 years, thanks to a nest homemade by a conservationist there.

80-year-old renowned conservationist Roy Dennis MBE created a homemade nest from arm-sized sticks and rope.

In time, a pair of golden eagles built their own ‘vast structure’ on top and began mating before having their eggs.

It was no easy task to set this up, particularly as they couldn’t observe very regularly due to the eagle’s propensity to be easily disturbed. In fact, it’s been five years since that original eyrie was built.

The golden eagle was exterminated from England and Wales 1850, and although some survived in Scotland, this was in very small numbers.

The reintroduction is all part of an effort with Trees for Life, who are working to rewild the Highlands – specifically the Dundreggan Estate located in between Loch Ness and Skye – and bring back other animals including wild boar and red squirrels.

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Golden eagles have been reintroduced throughout Scotland (Photo by Tim Graham/Getty Images)

Dundreggan manager, Doug Gilbert said: ‘This is a rewilding success story beyond our wildest dreams.

‘I’ve been checking the eyrie regularly since we built it in 2015, hoping to see evidence that the eagles had returned, and now they have. As golden eagles may use their nesting sites for generations, we’re hoping they are back for the long term.’

The success comes after an eagle called Tom who was introduced to the Perthshire area was reported missing despite being tracked by Raptor Persecution UK.

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Conservationist Roy Dennis (right) has worked tirelessly for golden eagle populations (Picture: Dan Kitwood/Getty Images)

Doug continues: ‘I do worry for the safety of the chick. They are renowned for wandering quite far distances.

‘There are several black spots where eagles regularly disappear. Some of them are well within range of a young golden eagle – just 50 km away, and chicks can travel for 100-150km.

‘What we are doing here won’t change the course of history.

‘But if we can produce one chick, rather than one being killed somewhere else, then it’s a good thing.’

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Refugee from Iraq earns place at Cambridge to study medicine and work for the NHS

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This teen smashed his A-levels (Picture: Buraq Ahmed / SWNS)

A refugee who left Iraq as a toddler to get urgent UK medical treatment has earned a place at Cambridge University to study medicine after getting 4A*s for his A-levels.

Buraq Ahmed, 18, suffered an agonising hip condition and moved to the UK aged three to have surgery.

He and his grandma Saadiyah Khattab, 69, were only supposed to stay long enough for treatment but while he was away, the war intensified and he couldn’t go back.

Unable to speak English, he started school in the UK, and flourished – but was unable to see his parents for ten years while the war raged on.

And despite nine surgeries and daily pain medication for his congenital hip dysplasia, he achieved top grades.

The teenager never forgot the world-class treatment he got to treat his condition or the kindness of the medics who helped him – and now wants to be an NHS doctor.

Buraq, from Cardiff, studied biology, chemistry, economics, and maths at A-level, smashing all of them.

Buraq Ahmed with his grandma
Burqa came to the UK with his grandma to have surgery on his hip when he was three (Picture: Buraq Ahmed / SWNS)

Buraq explained: ‘Neither my grandmother nor myself spoke English when we arrived in the UK, and there were many days when I was unable to move.

‘Initially we were only coming to the UK for a limited time however the Iraq War and ISIS terrorism attacks meant we couldn’t go back.

‘As a child, you don’t realise the trauma you and your family are going through and I was fortunate that my grandmother was always there for me.

‘My aunt and uncle also subsequently moved to Cardiff and, as my grandmother was getting older, we moved in with them and my young cousins.

‘As I have got older, I have realised what a worrying time it must have been for my parents and my three younger brothers who were born after I left Iraq and now live in Belgium.

‘Having spent so much time in hospitals with some of my happiest times being looked after by amazing NHS nurses I decided that I wanted to help other people who were suffering.’

Buraq Ahmed as a child.
He came to the UK when he was three (Picture: Buraq Ahmed / SWNS)

Buraq’s parents Duraid Abdullah, 49, and Ruaa Yousif, 38, sold their home in Iraq in 2005 so he could travel to the UK to undergo the surgery he desperately needed.

After fleeing the violence of the war, Buraq and his family were given refugee status and were able to build a life in Cardiff.

Bruaq had a right hip replacement operation in August 2019, and is waiting for another operation on the other side, delayed due to the pandemic.

The teenager attended a comprehensive secondary school and was a talented footballer being chosen to play for Cardiff City Academy.

However, as his condition worsened, his physical movement became stiff and he was unable to play, giving him more time to focus solely on his studies.

The former site of Buraq Ahmed's now destrroyed home in Iraq.
Buraq’s former home (Picture: Buraq Ahmed / SWNS)

Since arriving at the college in 2018 Buraq has competed in the Oxford and Cambridge regional debates and been an active member of the student-led Medical Ethics Society.

He added: ‘I have absolutely loved my time at Cardiff Sixth Form College. There are some really amazing students here from all over the world.’

Gareth Collier, principal at Cardiff Sixth Form College, said: ‘Buraq is an extraordinary student who out of adversity has really gone onto achieve great things.

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The smart teenager is now set to study medicine (Picture: Buraq Ahmed / SWNS)

‘Despite the traumatic start to his life, continued separation from his parents and the strong medication that he uses to manage his daily pain, Buraq never dwelled on these difficulties.

‘Instead this has made him resilient, determined to succeed, and embrace every opportunity that has been available at the college.

‘He fully deserves both his grades and a place at Cambridge. Our NHS needs people like Buraq and I am truly delighted for him.’

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You can now get the Domino’s garlic and herb dip in a squeezy bottle

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Domino's pizza dip now in squeezy bottle
Would you prefer to drizzle rather than dip? (Picture: Metro.co.uk)

If you choose Domino’s over Pizza Hut and Papa John’s for your chain restaurant pizza fix, you likely love their Garlic & Herb Dip.

But there’s always been a fatal flaw in that delicious sauce.

No, we’re not talking about the teeny-tiny size of the pot you automatically get with your pizza.

Or the horrifying revelation that there are 675 calories in that Big Dip pot.

We’re of course referring to the dismay of trying to dip a slice of pizza into the sauce, only to have your topping slide right off into the pot.

Now, Domino’s may have just come up with a solution: a squeezy bottle of their dip so you can just drizzle the stuff on top rather than using it as a dip.

From today and for a limited time only, Domino’s is launching what they call The Drizzler; their Garlic & Herb dip in a 320ml bottle designed for squeezing on top of your pizza.

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Annoyingly, you can’t just buy a bottle (Picture: Ben Queenborough/PinPep/Cover Im)

Of course, there’s a catch, and this one is that it’s not as easy as just ordering the bottle online if you’ve fallen foul of the sliding toppings curse.

Instead, Domino’s will be randomly delivering the bottles to people across the UK and Ireland who order pizzas with a Big Dip this weekend

We repeat: to have a chance of getting a bottle, you’ll need to order pizza plus one of the Big Dip pots. There’s no guarantee you’d get a bottle alongside that, as they’ll be randomly given out, but they will be freebies with that purchase.

The bottles have been made in a limited edition run of just 800 bottles, so you’ll need to hedge your bets on not that many people ordering a Big Dip this weekend (14 August to 17 August) if you’re desperate to get your paws on your own.

Of course, you don’t need to be too devastated if you don’t get a bottle.

You do know you can just… tip the pot to pour your sauce on top of your pizza instead, right?

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Five signs your partner is planning to break up with you post-lockdown

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Could a dumping be imminent? (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

Picture the scene: you’re dating someone and they realise things aren’t quite right. They ponder how to end things in a way that won’t leave you feeling absolutely rubbish, but that frees them up to date other people. Just as they settle on the perfect emotionally sensitive speech to deliver, the coronavirus pandemic hits.

Suddenly they’re confronted with a whole new set of unexpected challenges.

Perhaps you moved in together at the start of lockdown, thinking that maybe their uncertainty would fade and at least you’d have someone close by for companionship.

Maybe your relationship became long-distance, and breaking up over Zoom (and thus partaking in the zumping trend) felt inappropriate.

Or maybe you struggled during Covid-19, with family illness, job loss, or just the crushing stress of living through a pandemic, and your partner didn’t want to look horrible by throwing a breakup into the mix.

However things went down, your partner is now biding their time for when it will feel okay to end things.

The unsettling thing is that this might not be a hypothetical… you could be hurtling towards a post-lockdown dumping without even having an inkling of what’s about to happen.

The good news is that there are likely signs you can spot that a breakup may be imminent. That might not lessen the pain of a broken heart, but at least you won’t be blindsided, right?

Here are five signs to look out for.

1. You’ve disappeared from their social media

If you’ve been isolating separately, it’s easy to see that as an easy explanation for why you’re no longer showing up on their Insta feed – you haven’t done anything ‘grammable together, after all.

But take a closer look. Did they mention you loads on their Stories pre-lockdown? Have you been screenshotting your video calls and adding love hearts, while they’ve not mentioned you once in the last few months?

What about other ways of engaging? Have they stopped liking and commenting on your pics? Have they quietly removed evidence that you’re a couple?

Life coach Michael Cloonan explains that removing a partner from social media is an ‘easy way to begin picturing life without them’, so this could be a slow phasing out of your connection.

An illustration of two women kissing on a bed with a red cover against a yellow wall
Have you noticed a change in your sex life? (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

2. They seem irritable whenever you speak

Fluctuations in mood are normal – especially in the stress of a pandemic.

But if your partner seems consistently withdrawn, annoyed, or grumpy, that might indicate that they’re thinking about ending things but just don’t know how.

Try talking to them about how they’re feeling. Either they open up and you can help them deal with what’s going on, or they shut down, and you can see something’s not right between you.

3. They’re unavailable

Let’s be blunt. Lockdown has given us a load more spare time, so if your other half seems to suddenly have a booked and busy calendar – so much so they can’t spare a minute for a video chat – that should raise alarm bells.

‘If they start to pick-up new classes at the gym, overload themselves with projects at work, or simply put, are rarely at home and spending time with you, be wary,’ says Michael.

‘Screening becomes the new routine as they become increasingly difficult to pin-down. Sometimes, when we can’t face a situation like breaking-up with our partner, ghosting is an easier (but more destructive) solution.’

Illustration of two men on a their phones having a virtual chat
Maybe they’ve been biding their time (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

4. They won’t talk about making future plans

Keep an eye out for how your partner reacts when you talk about something in the future – whether that’s just a weekend getaway in a few months time or the big stuff of buying a house together.

If they refuse to engage, that’s a sign they’re not planning a future with you in it.

5. They’re less intimate

‘They’re less intimate – if your partner is debating dumping you, the process will see them treat you more as a friend than a lover,’ says Michael. ‘If your sex life grows sparser, and they treat it more as a chore or duty than a moment of intimacy, or conversely, you have more sex than hanging out, be cautious.’

The answer of what to do if you spot these signs is simple, but not particularly fun.

You’ll need to calmly open up a conversation with the person you’re dating to see what’s going on.

Don’t jump to conclusions – while these signs can point to a breakup, they can also signal personal issues that you just don’t know about. Don’t go in all guns blazing, demanding to know why they’re ending things.

Ask open questions and check in with how your partner is actually feeling in themselves and about the relationship. Either you end up connecting on a deeper level, or you get to have a mature, honest conversation about moving on.

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Couple who dated online in lockdown meet and get engaged just weeks later

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Gregg Wright and his new partner Hannah Harvey
Hannah Harvey, 28, and Gregg Wright, 40, matched on dating site Badoo and immediately formed a connection (Picture: SWNS)

Here’s some proof that love can thrive in the strangest circumstances.

Hannah Harvey, 28, and Gregg Wright, 40, matched on dating site Badoo and felt an instant connection, but couldn’t meet up because of the coronavirus pandemic and resulting lockdown.

They started virtually dating, continuing to chat via texting and video calls for months as they couldn’t see each other in person – despite living just 20 minutes apart.

Then in June, as restrictions eased, they finally met in person.

Four weeks later they were engaged – and they credit their months of having to get to know each other without touching for the strength of their relationship.

Hannah, a carer, from Silver End, Essex, said: ‘The connection we have is what you dream of having. It’s literally a perfect relationship.

‘I’m still trying to believe the fact that I’m so lucky and I’ve found my perfect man – during lockdown!

Gregg Wright and his new partner Hannah Harvey wearing coronavirus face masks
After months of conversation, the couple finally met in person in June (Picture: SWNS)

‘We had to take everything slowly, messaging and speaking over the phone. It forced us to get to know each other really well before we met.

‘It’s like we did it the old-fashioned way, where there would be a courtship process. We mixed modern day and traditional dating, and it just worked.’

Hannah and Gregg, a retail supervisor from Chelmsford, matched online back in April and bonded over their shared experiences as single parents.

They spoke every day, quickly becoming incredibly close.

‘Within the first few messages, we had this amazing connection I just can’t explain,’ said Hannah. ‘We learned we are so alike.

‘It all happened so quickly, and I’ve never experienced feelings like that before. It felt so special and so unique.’

Hannah said her children, aged 10, seven and 18 months, noticed her mood would lift whenever was speaking to Gregg.

Gregg Wright and his new partner Hannah Harvey showing off engagement rings
Four weeks later, they were engaged (Picture: SWNS)

She said: ‘It got to the point where whenever he would message me, I’d have this huge grin on my face.

‘My kids would say, “Oh look, Mummy’s smiling, she must have a message from Gregg!”

‘I couldn’t believe he was real – I kept waiting to learn something about him which would ruin it. But it never happened.

‘Now, we know everything about one another, and everything is perfect.’

Their first IRL meeting in June was pretty casual, with Gregg, who has three children aged 15, 12, and nine, heading over to Hannah’s home to watch a film and have a takeaway.

They knew then that the relationship was meant to be, both feeling like they had known each other for years.

One month later, Gregg proposed while the couple were on a romantic trip to Bournemouth.

A heart of rose petals prepared for Gregg Wright's proposal to his new partner Hannah Harvey.
Gregg planned a romantic proposal in Bournemouth (Picture: SWNS)

He had secretly planned the proposal, laying rose petals on the bed and buying a bottle of champagne.

Now, the happy couple are looking forward to a brilliant future. They plan to move in together after Christmas and bring their six children together.

They know some people might think they’ve moved too fast, but Hannah and Gregg agree that when you’ve found the right person for you, you just know.

Hannah added: ‘We are just so in love. It’s unbelievable.

‘Unless people have been through the same situation, they’ll never believe it or understand it.

‘But it’s true – there is such a thing as finding your soulmate.’

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People are baffled by this weirdly sexual listing for an apartment in New York

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West Side apartment billed as sexy.
The one-bedroom apartment was listed as a place where you can ‘romp & play, all night’ (Picture: Street Easy)

We know by now that listing for flats and houses up for rent are to be taken with a pinch of salt.

That ‘modern open-plan’ apartment is actually a tiny studio with a shower in the kitchen. The photos of four different bedrooms have been artfully angled to disguise the fact that one of those ‘bedrooms’ is just a bed in the living room.

So we understand the desire to mix things up a bit when advertising a property… but this attempt is an unexpected angle.

A listing for a one-bedroom rental in New York has left many more than a little puzzled, as it was originally quite, um, sexy in tone.

The advert, shared as a screenshot on Reddit, described the apartment as a ‘sexy’ spot where you can ‘romp & play, all night’.

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The living room, which is described as ‘stadium-sized’ (Picture Street Easy)

‘A sexy king-size one bedroom where you’ll find four, very large closets in which you can hide from your very, naughty playmate,’ read the listing.

‘And should you be lucky enough to be found, the two of you can retreat to the king-size bedroom where you both can romp & play, all night.

‘Tired of playing with only the two of you? Well then, invite many more dutty guests to partake in communal games, held in your stadium-sized living room.

‘However, be mindful not to let your guests stay past dawn though, else they’ll be sure to be beamed at by glaring sunlight; not good for the walk of shame.’

Alongside the interesting choice of imagining the future residents’ apartment activity, it’s worth noting that living room does not appear to be ‘stadium-sized’.

West Side apartment billed as sexy. Description ONE BEDROOM OF UNACCUSTOMED SIZE & CLOSET COUNT ::: Stadium-sized living room. ::: 4 spacious closets ::: A kitchen you can actually cook and eat in ::: Southern and Eastern windows, all about ::: Cheap. That's all, folks.
The original listing, which has since been changed (Picture: Street Easy)
West Side apartment billed as sexy. Description ONE BEDROOM OF UNACCUSTOMED SIZE & CLOSET COUNT ::: Stadium-sized living room. ::: 4 spacious closets ::: A kitchen you can actually cook and eat in ::: Southern and Eastern windows, all about ::: Cheap. That's all, folks.
The kitchen (Picture: Street Easy)

And if you are interested in renting the place, you’ll need to front up $2,500 (£1,912) a month.

When the listing was shared on Reddit, the reaction was fairly positive.

‘I guess the adjectives of “charming,” “bathed in sunlight” and “cozy” are done,’ wrote one Redditor.

Some suggested that the listing copy may have been sent over as a joke and pasted in before anyone actually read it.

West Side apartment billed as sexy. Description ONE BEDROOM OF UNACCUSTOMED SIZE & CLOSET COUNT ::: Stadium-sized living room. ::: 4 spacious closets ::: A kitchen you can actually cook and eat in ::: Southern and Eastern windows, all about ::: Cheap. That's all, folks.
It’s quite a nice bedroom, to be fair (Picture: Street Easy)

Sadly, since the listing was shared online the description has been changed to a much more straight-forward style.

It now reads: ‘Stadium-sized living room, 4 spacious closets, A kitchen you can actually cook and eat in, Southern and Eastern windows, all about, Cheap.

‘That’s all, folks.’

Perhaps the realtors remembered that while coronavirus is still going on, recommending ‘communal games’ with guests, ‘dutty’ or otherwise, is not the wisest idea.

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You could win this £475,000 beach house for a £2.50 raffle ticket

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The house by the beach is up for sale through a raffle at just £2.50 a ticket (Picture: Jan Michaelis)

Another day, another house being sold through a raffle.

Anyone else feel like this might be the only shot they’ll get at owning a property?

While yesterday’s listing was a snazzy London home, today’s is the dream holiday property… or the place to go for if you’re ready for a move by the sea.

A couple is selling off a beach house valued at £475,000 for £2.50 a ticket, and plan to donate £50,000 of the proceeds to charity.

Jan and Alina Michaelis are raffling off a modern bungalow, called the Sea Mist Bungalow, in a cul-de-sac in the West Sussex village of West Wittering.

It’s got three bedrooms, a large open-plan living room, a dining area, a modern kitchen (with a Bosch gas hob and Zannussi oven), and a nice garden, too.

The master bedroom has an en-suite and if three bedrooms aren’t enough, there’s permission in place to add in two more bedrooms and another bathroom.

Outside the main house there’s also a self-contained cabin, which has a kitchenette and a large deck outside.

the cabin of the beach house up for a raffle
The outdoor cabin (Picture: Jan Michaelis)
beach house raffle (Picture: Jan Michaelis)
The interiors are pretty lovely (Picture: Jan Michaelis)

Location-wise, the home is in walking distance of the blue flag beaches at East Head which are ranked among Britain’s most beautiful, and in a National Trust Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty.

The couple want to raffle off the home so they can raise money for charity while also giving the home to someone mortgage-free to help them get on the property ladder.

They’ll need to sell 240,000 tickets to give the property away, which will mean they get £600,000 to cover the cost of the home along with stamp duty, expenses, and that charitable donation.

Should they not sell enough tickets, the winner will instead receive a cash prize and a proportional donation will still be made to charity.

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The top floor bedroom (Picture: Jan Michaelis)
second bedroom of beach house raffle
Another one, this time with a fireplace (Picture: Jan Michaelis)

To enter, you’ll need to answer a simple question and pay that £2.50 for a ticket on the WinMyBeachHome website.

The couple told Femail that they’re ‘reluctantly’ selling the property so they can get somewhere bigger to accommodate their growing family.

Jan, a former professional snowboarder, said: ‘We opted for the raffle route as we see it as an opportunity to do something good whilst selling our house.

‘We want to raise £50,000 for charities close to our heart whilst giving away our home to one lucky winner on October 30 this year.

studio annex of beach house being raffled off
The studio annex (Picture: Jan Michaelis)
the kitchen of beach house being raffled off
This bit has its own kitchen area (Picture: Jan Michaelis)

‘And with no mortgage to pay and stamp duty and conveyancing fees covered, there really is nothing to lose!’

‘We know a lot of people are currently looking to get on the property ladder, relocate or change their lifestyles.

‘The surge in staycations also shows that a lot of people are not travelling abroad and are making the most of home offices and flexible working arrangements whilst spending time in beautiful places.

‘It’s definitely been a lot of work to put this together and a steep learning curve, but we’re just really excited to be here and have launched our website successfully.’

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These Everyday Heroes made a difference during lockdown – now it’s time to vote for your favourite

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Earlier this year while in the depths of the coronavirus pandemic, Metro.co.uk sought to shine a light on those among us who were going above and beyond to help others.

Through our mini series, Everyday Heroes, we celebrated the stories of inspirational people who gave up their time and energy for free to help others, whether to cook and deliver food, organise care, raise money or even just provide some entertainment during the long days of lockdown. 

Now Metro.co.uk is inviting you to vote for your favourite Everyday Hero, which you can do at the bottom of the page – but be quick as polling will close at 9am on 31 August, 2020.

As a token of appreciation, our winner will receive a £200 voucher from BuyAGift, along with a personalised chocolate hamper from Getting Personal and a bouquet of flowers courtesy of Interflora.

Your second and third favourite heroes will also get a little treat and receive a bunch of flowers and the chocolate hamper.

Prizes include an experience voucher, a bunch of flowers and a personalised chocolate hamper
Our first place winner will receive a £200 experience voucher from BuyAGift, along with flowers from Interflora and a personalised chocolate hamper from Getting Personal, which two runners up will also receive

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So, before you get voting here’s a reminder of all the amazing deeds carried out by our Everyday Heroes…

Julia Camilleri

Crowned our first Everyday Hero, as Covid-19 spread, Julia was setting up a food and prescription delivery service for vulnerable members of her community. What started with home-made flyers through front doors soon turned into a full-blown operation, with Julia coordinating 85 local volunteers. She hopes to continue the service long past the pandemic.

Julia Camilleri
Julia coordinated 85 local volunteers (Picture: Julia Camilleri)

Read more of Julia’s story here.

Jon Crowder

An article about food banks spurred marketer Jon into action. Realising his local food banks were likely to be badly hit by the pandemic, he started a crowdfunding page and raised £1,300 to bulk-buy food and deliver it to food banks in his area. 

Jon Crowder
Jon raised £1,300 to bulk-buy food (Picture: Jon Crowder)

Read more of Jon’s story here.

Sarah Brooks

Modest to the last, it was Sarah’s mum who recommended her for an Everyday Heroes slot. She had started to batch-cook meals and leave portions outside her house for anyone who needed them – and was amazed to find everything always went. Covering all the costs by herself, she refused donations and intended to keep going as long as she could get ingredients.

Sarah Brooks
Sarah batch-cooked meals for anyone in need (Picture: Sarah Brooks)

Read more of Sarah’s story here.

Sacha Coward

When museums began to close in lockdown, freelance tour guide Sacha decided to bring them into our homes. In a series of energetic, 60 second videos – that he filmed, edited and posted for free – he brought artefacts to life and told stories to spark the imagination to lift the boredom of monotonous days.

Sacha Coward, My Odd Job, Escape room designer
Sacha Coward brought museums to us (Picture: Matthew Chattle for Metro.co.uk)

Read more of Sacha’s story here.

Dr Alexander Finlayson

It took just days for Alexander and his team to spot the crucial role technology was going to play in the pandemic. They worked 24/7 to create Nye, NHS-compliant technology that enabled doctors and patients to communicate safely from wherever they both were, and made it available to every NHS doctor in the UK for free. If that wasn’t enough, Dr Finlayson continued to work as GP throughout.

Dr Alexander Finlayson
Having created Nye, Alexander gave it away for free (Picture: Dr Alexander Finlayson/Nye)

Read more of Alexander’s story here.

Holly Winter

With the wedding industry in shutdown, dress designer Holly Winter was inspired by Clap For Carers to offer her skills for free to any NHS bride-to-be. She used material she already had, conducting fittings via Zoom and teamed up with photographers and jewellers who were also happy to provide complimentary products. Despite her own business taking a hit, Holly was determined to give couples their special day – whenever that might be.

Wedding dress designer Holly Winter
Holly was inspired by Clap For Carers (Picture: Berni Palumbo Photography)

Read more of Holly’s story here.

Suzanne Noble

With a dual career as a jazz singer and app founder, Suzanne was perfectly placed to set up Corona Concerts, a Facebook group where musicians from around the world could promote and stream their music. What started as a passion project quickly became a full time endeavour, and the group now has almost 3,000 members and is still going strong today.

Corona Concerts' Suzanne Noble
Suzanne is still involved with Corona Concerts (Picture: Sara Leigh Lewis)

Read more of Suzanne’s story here.

Jamie Welham

Despite having no experience in a commercial kitchen, TV Director Jamie volunteered as primary school chef – and found the dynamic atmosphere wasn’t all that different from a show’s set. Working as part of the school’s kitchen team, he prepared meals for up to 200 children around London Fields and leant the true value of school cooks, an experience he described as ‘humbling and inspiring’.

TV director Jamie Welham
Working in a school kitchen was ‘humbling and inspiring’ (Picture: Jamie Welham)

Read more of Jamie’s story here.

Lauren Ezekiel

As an ex beauty editor, Lauren knows the power cosmetics have to lift spirits. As the pandemic took hold she founded WE C U in her spare time, calling on professional contacts to provide beauty products and getting family and friends to help package and distribute goodie bags to front-line NHS staff. To date, WE C U has given away hundreds of thousands of items to over 62 hospitals and social care facilities.

WE C U founder Lauren Ezekiel
Lauren ran WE C U with the help of friends and family (Picture: Lauren Ezekiel)

Read more of Lauren’s story here.

Eleanor Segall Mandelstram

Having suffered with mental illness herself, Eleanor knew just how isolating and anxiety-provoking lockdown was proving for many. Her answer was Corona Cards: along with a small team of fellow volunteers, she hand-crafted and sent out personalised greeting cards without charge. Their popularity grew, and they were soon taking orders from overseas and proving just how valuable human connection can be.

Eleanor Segall Mandelstram
Eleanor knows how damaging isolation can be (Picture: Eleanor Segall Mandelstram)

Read more of Eleanor’s story here.

Vishan Nair

Engineering student Vishan decided to join Malaysia’s national PPE-making effort at the start of the coronavirus crisis using his own 3D printer. It was a family affair: after setting his relatives to work on his production line, he turned the family dining room into an assembly station and by the end of April, he had made over 1,000 pieces of protective equipment that were used in Malaysian hospitals.

Vishan Nair
Vishan recruited his family to help make PPE (Picture: Vishan Nair)

Read more of Vishan’s story here.

Dela Idowu

When Dela’s neighbour John died during lockdown, she knew a ‘grief tree’ would make a fitting memorial. Despite never having met some of her street’s residents, Dela encouraged them all to write a short note about John, which she then hung on the ‘tree’ and presented to his widow. ‘As sad as the pandemic is,’ she said, ‘it has brought out humanity, compassion and empathy in people.’ She has since been emboldened to organise a street-wide get-together.

Dela Idowu
Dela has been inspired to do more in her community (Picture: Dela Idowu)

Read more of Dela’s story here.

Clare Mackintosh

Before Covid-19, Clare was perhaps most well known as a best-selling British author, but the pandemic gave her a side-hustle in the form of The Secret Library. With libraries closed, she set up the tiny village outpost as a way for local residents to get books in safe, socially distanced conditions – and stay entertained during lockdown. It even became a drop off point for food parcels, and remained a lifeline for the most vulnerable in her community.

Author Clare Mackintosh, one of Metro.co.uk's Everyday Heroes
Clare standing next to her Secret Library (Picture: Heledd Roberts)

Read more of Clare’s story here.

Keith Bates

Keith had been looking forward to well-deserved retirement when coronavirus hit. When one of his daughters mentioned a charity that was making scrubs, he knew he could help. Using a tax rebate to purchase material, Keith organised over 3,000 volunteers to cut, sew and distribute scrubs and has now produced over 10,000 sets for front-line NHS staff.

Keith Bates and his daughters
Keith came out of retirement to help the pandemic effort (Picture: Keith Bates)

Read more of Keith’s story here.

Jake Day

Age wasn’t a barrier to 10-year-old Jake’s fundraising efforts. He decided to run 250km in a month to raise money for Noah’s Ark Children’s Hospital in Cardiff, where his mum Kayleigh is a nurse. With his dad by his side, he was soon averaging 10km a day, becoming something of a local celebrity. To date he has smashed his original target to raise over £5,000.

Jake Day on a run
Jake has raised over £5k (Picture: Dave Day)

Read more of Jake’s story here.

Holly Maslen

As the UK population started to stockpile food, Holly went in the opposite direction, setting up Green Island Veg Economy (GIVE) as a way for Isle of Wight residents to share surplus crops and plants. The initiative not only sought to reduce food waste but bring people together and encourage sustainability. Since launching in April, the original Facebook group now boasts over 7,000 members.

Holly Maslen
Holly’s crop-sharing scheme, GIVE, is still going strong (Picture: Holly Maslen)

Read more of Holly’s story here.

Chris Higgins

Chris may have been the last Everyday Hero is our series, but he was by no means least. Working as a nurse in London’s Nightingale Hospital, he was part of a team caring for 57 Covid-19 patients, 20 of whom sadly died. After seven weeks of long shifts and a heavy emotional toll, Chris went straight back to his day job as a sexual health adviser at Soho’s 56 Dean Street clinic.

Chris Higgins
Chris worked at Nightingale for seven weeks (Picture: Chris Higgins)

Read more of Chris’ story here.

To vote for your winner, click on their name below:

Poll closes at 9am on 31 August, 2020..

Do you have a story you’d like to share? Get in touch by emailing platform@metro.co.uk

Share your views in the comments below.

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Man who lost 220lb began weight loss by eating only unseasoned potatoes for two weeks

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Man who lost 220 pounds began weight loss by eating only unseasoned potatoes for two weeks
Dylan was worried about being able to walk around his new college (Picture: Dylan Wall / SWNS)

College student Dylan Wall, 21, was 425lbs when he graduated high school (around 30 stone) and decided he wanted to lose weight.

It was a 2017 visit to a potential college that made the decision for Dylan, who said: ‘During a tour of my college, I lost my group because I couldn’t keep up.

‘I knew I wouldn’t be able to make it to my classes on time if I stayed on that course.

‘Around the same time, my sister also gave birth to my nephew. I didn’t want to set that example for him.’

Dylan, of Dixon County, Tennessee, took that as the motivation he needed, but started his weight loss journey in an unorthodox (and fairly unhealthy) way.

For the first two weeks of his diet he ate only unseasoned potatoes, doing something he calls a ‘taste bud cleanse’.

In his mind, the dull taste of the potatoes would help to take away any ‘flavour addiction’ he’d been experiencing while eating sugar and fat laden junk food.

Man who lost 220 pounds began weight loss by eating only unseasoned potatoes for two weeks
Dylan before the weight loss (Picture: Dylan Wall / SWNS)

‘I started by doing a taste bud cleanse,’ said Dylan.

‘I ate only potatoes with no seasoning for two weeks. It really helped with my cravings.

‘I then cut out all dairy and red meat. For the most part, I just counted my calories. I didn’t try to make my healthy food taste good. I just ate to fuel myself. I wanted to break my flavour addiction and didn’t want to eat for pleasure.’

His diet was a complete 180 from before, having previously eaten mostly fast food and a lot of processed items.

Man who lost 220 pounds began weight loss by eating only unseasoned potatoes for two weeks
Dylan also wanted to do it to set an example to his new baby nephew (Picture: Dylan Wall / SWNS)

‘I’d usually get something from McDonald’s on the way to school. I would get more than a normal portion for sure. For lunch, I’d get a double portion of whatever the school lunch was.

‘I didn’t really have a set dinner. When I got home, I’d eat on and off until I went to sleep.’

Thankfully after the potato diet, Dylan switched to a more sustainable way of eating, incorporating a variety of foods and tracking calories.

His breakfast would comprise of egg whites with two pieces of low-calorie toast and for lunch, a turkey sub with no cheese.

Man who lost 220 pounds began weight loss by eating only unseasoned potatoes for two weeks
Although Dylan has been left with excess skin, he is super happy with his results (Picture: Dylan Wall / SWNS)

‘For dinner I would have something like chicken breast with three types of veggies and rice,’ he adds.

The first 180lbs was lost solely throughout diet for Dylan, with the last 40 coming off after he started going to the gym.

‘It took just under a year to lose 180 pounds. I didn’t step into the gym until I lost that first bit of weight,’ said Dylan.

Once he was ready, Dylan started off slow, beginning with only cardio.

Is the 'taste bud cleanse' safe?

Although this did work for Dylan, it’s not safe to eat just one food – regardless of what it is.

If you’d like to ‘retrain’ yourself to enjoy healthier foods, you should consider cutting down on added sugar and fat, and including plenty of veg and fruit as part of your meals.

Seasoning your food and cooking in flavourful ways can help you feel more inclined to enjoy vegetables or different proteins. You will need to be mindful of consuming lots of salt, but enough herbs and spices to add a bit of oomph should help you reintroduce new foods.

If you are choosing to lose weight, speak with your doctor first to find out the safest and most effective way to do so for you.

Eating whole, unprocessed, and homemade foods with plenty of variety is always going to be beneficial for your health, but you may need to restrict calories somewhat alongside this.

He added: ‘I really wanted to be able to do cardio. It was the bane of my existence.

‘At 30 stone, it wasn’t easy to run in gym class, so I did cardio everyday when I started.

‘Eventually, I got down to a 7.30 minute mile. Gradually, I also added some upper body stuff, squats, and deadlifts.

‘After the weight loss, I was left with a considerable amount of extra skin. I wanted to fill that up with muscle mass. I wanted to bulk back up the right way.

Man who lost 220 pounds began weight loss by eating only unseasoned potatoes for two weeks
He’s now enjoying building his fitness (Picture: Dylan Wall / SWNS)

‘The last three-and-a-half stone came off a little bit slower. It took another year to get down that last 50 pounds.’

Dylan is now planning to have an operation to remove his excess skin.

He said: ‘I would do the surgery. I don’t think I knew how mentally taxing being left with the skin would be.

‘After coming this far and losing so much I’m still left with that reminder everyday.’

Dylan has now begun concentrating on helping the people in his life with their weight issues.

He said: ‘I met my current girlfriend 50 pounds into my weight loss. Since we got together she’s lost five-and-a-half stone.

‘My dad also bet me 100 dollars to see who could lose 60 pounds the fastest. I won but he lost the 60 pounds too.’

Do you have a story like Dylan’s to share?

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Tidying-obsessed mum reveals how she’s created a perfectly organised home – and shares her tips for decluttering your house with ease

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Shaheen Pathan, uk's most organised mum (PA Real Life/Collect)
Shaheen Pathan, 37, may be the UK’s most organised mum (Picture: PA Real Life)

If time spent at home in lockdown made you want to chuck out all your possessions and give your interiors an overhaul, listen up.

Shaheen Pathan is here to help.

The mum-of-three swears by the saying ‘tidy house, tidy mind’ and is proudly obsessed with keeping her home incredibly organised.

Handily for us, she’s up for sharing her tips to declutter and get your house in order.

Shaheen, 37, only became serious about decluttering back in 2016, when she moved into a four-bedroom home in Batley, West Yorkshire, with her husband Sajid and their older children, Eesa, 10, and Adam, seven.

She kicked off her organisation journey by giving away five bin bags full of unwanted items to friends, family, and charity, before overhauling her pantry, medicine cabinet, and cleaning cupboard.

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Clothes – even the kids’ – are colour-coordinated and pristinely folded (Picture: PA Real Life)

Soon her tidying tricks were getting attention, so she set up an Instagram to share her wisdom – and now hopes to turn her organisational talents into a career.

‘My motto is, “Put it back where you found it”. It really is that simple,’ says Shaheen.

The mum recommends Marie Kondo’s KonMari method, whereby you sort items by category and give away anything that doesn’t ‘spark joy’ when you hold it.

She followed this technique back in 2016 and hasn’t looked back.

Shaheen's tips for making your home super organised:

  • Organise things into set categories, and make sure whatever you use is always returned to its rightful place
  • Labels and baskets are a useful way of neatly displaying cupboards and wardrobes
  • Colour-coordinating your wardrobe means you know exactly what you have, and will not buy copycats of clothes you already own
  • Stack clothes lengthways rather than on top of each other, so nothing is hidden
  • Rotate your wardrobe according to season
  • If you are going to dedicate time to decluttering an area of your house, clear the entire area out and carefully go through everything, getting rid of anything you do not use or need

Now, all her wardrobes are colour-coded and she stores anything she doesn’t hang up in drawers or baskets stacked on their side.

‘If you take the time to do it properly once, it isn’t that difficult to maintain,’ she says.

‘Every season, I take two to three hours to rotate all our wardrobes, storing away winter clothes and getting out summer bits, or vice versa.

‘That way, nobody has to rummage through things they aren’t going to wear.’

Her pantry is similarly spotless, with items organised into set categories, such as tins, treats and condiments.

Shaheen organising her cupboards (PA Real Life/Collect)
The pantry has everything kept in its own container and its proper place (Picture: PA Real Life)

To avoid clutter, everything is kept in corresponding baskets, which she buys for just a few pounds from B&M or Poundstretcher.

In her bedroom, Shaheen’s perfume collection is organised in height order and her jewellery is neatly stored in a tray, according to colour and style.

She keeps the beauty products she uses every day in a special caddy, while everything else is neatly stacked in her medicine cabinet in categorised 79p Poundstretcher baskets.

Shaheen explains: ‘I don’t want to just shove things into cupboards at random. It may seem easier at the time, but sooner or later, things become cluttered and you end up making more mess trying to find the things you need.

Shaheen's fridge (PA Real Life/Collect)
Even the fridge is an organisational dream (Picture: PA Real Life)

‘Keeping everything in tiny baskets is a good tip. You can pick them up really cheap.

‘I use them for everything – makeup, cleaning products, plasters, medicine and even odd household items like batteries and spare lightbulbs.

‘Whatever my family and I need, we will know exactly where to find it.’

Even the kids’ playroom is pristine, with toys categorised by type and stored in crates and baskets, while books are neatly stacked in height order.

Each day Shaheen will wake up naturally at 7am, get herself ready, then wake up the children and prepare breakfast for the family.

Shaheen's watch collection (PA Real Life/Collect)
Shaheen recommends plenty of boxed and baskets for storage (Picture: PA Real Life)

She then runs the vacuum around the house, does laundry, and tidies the entire house before devoting the rest of the day to her children.

To save time she preps meals in advance and cooks in batch, which she says saves the family money as well as time.

‘I want my house to run as smoothly as possible. I don’t want to be running around like mad every morning, frantically getting things ready,’ the mum says.

‘I find cleaning therapeutic. Being prepared and organised means I’m not spending every spare minute cleaning and tidying.

‘Instead, I’m able to have quality time with the children, especially now they are home from school because of the coronavirus.

‘Their childhood is precious. You never get that time back, so I’m grateful I have the opportunity to make so many memories with them.

‘I will play with them, or we’ll do some crafts together. Or, if they are doing schoolwork, I’ll have a bit of time to myself, which is so important as a mum.’

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How I Do It: The gay man who has threesomes with his husband

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After exchanging some pleasantries, his stories started to heat up – like the time he went to a sex club and his boyfriend at the time watched him have sex with another man (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

Every Friday on How I Do It, we get a sneak peek into seven days of a person’s life, or more specifically what goes on in their bedroom.

More so than just being about sex, this series explores what makes people tick, what affects their sex drive, relationships, and all the other things that make up our love and sex lives.

Last week, we heard from Sharon – single woman who has spent most of lockdown reigniting an on-and-off relationship and really misses having sex.

Today, we’d like to introduce you to Eric*, a gay man who has recently opened his marriage to outsiders.

He tells us what it’s like to share his husband with other men and what day-to-day married life really looks like.

Sunday

I woke up on Sunday morning with a splitting headache.

Not because I’d been on a bender the night before, but because I had popped two PrEP pills, which is an HIV prevention drug.

It was in anticipation for a threesome I was due to have with my husband and a guy (who we’ll call Adam*) that we’d both been flirting with via an Instagram group chat.

The threesome was originally scheduled for midday so I stumbled out of bed at 10am and started cleaning the house. I washed up, vacuumed, emptied the cat litter and cleaned the kitchen.

Despite us messaging the night before, Adam hadn’t 100% confirmed he was coming (no pun intended) and we didn’t hear back until that evening – he’d been in bed all day with a hangover.

Cut to my husband and I falling asleep on the couch together while watching TV and then rolling into bed in the late hours of the evening.

Monday

After a long working day, my husband and I went to dinner at a too-fancy-for-us French restaurant around the corner from my work.

Exhausted and full, we made our way back home, which is just over an hour away.

To spice things up, I made a bet with him that if we got home by 9:30pm, he’d be bottoming tonight. We got home at around 9:45pm but he said he was too tired to have sex anyway.

He eventually crashed out in front of the TV and I started getting ready for bed.

After I brushed my teeth, I turned on some porn on my phone and finished myself off over the bathroom sink.

Tuesday

After work, I met my husband for a drink in Soho.

We had dinner plans with a guy we had never met but had been flirting with via Instagram (I swear Instagram works way better than Tinder).

We entered the Japanese restaurant and went downstairs to where Amir* said he was waiting. After exchanging some pleasantries – like where he grew up, his coming out story with his homophobic father and how, when he moved to London, his stories started to heat up – like the time he went to a sex club and his boyfriend at the time watched him have sex with another man.

At the end of the night, we walked Amir to his bus stop and said goodbye, with the promise that he’d cook us dinner one night in coming weeks.

As it was our first encounter and we’re still pretty new to opening up our relationship, a kiss on the cheek and some hugs with wandering hands was the furthest we got that night.

Wednesday

Just in case you weren’t sure that we’re flaming homosexuals, we watched reruns of RuPaul’s Drag Race and then climbed into bed at around 10pm.

Resting my head on my partner’s hairy chest as our legs were intertwined, we finished each other off as we made out and spoke about what we wanted to do with Amir.

There’s nothing like a good ol’ dependable hand job to take the edge off after a stressful day.

Soon after we finished, we drifted off to sleep while cuddling.

Thursday

After work, we had a couple of friends over for dinner and I made my specialty – courgette lasagne.

The only thing less spicy than my lasagne was the amount of sex we had that night (none).

Friday

After a full-on week at work, I parked myself in front of the TV, where my husband and I stayed for the rest of the evening.

We ordered take-out and I got cookies for dessert. When my husband asked if I could share one, I jokingly asked what was in it for me and he said a blowjob – a trade I happily cashed in.

We had to turn off the TV halfway through though, as a particularly graphic episode of Dr Pimple Popper played in the background.

Who said romance is dead?

Saturday

You know those friends you just always end up flirting with on a night out?

Well, my husband’s and mine – Blake* – was at the same pre-drinks as us tonight.

There’s nothing like a little light touching around the waist and a few cheeky (consensual, of course) butt squeezes to start off an evening.

After a couple of hours, we headed out – and who should we spot but Adam, the guy we were supposed to have a threesome with the previous weekend. The gay world can feel very small sometimes.

Things escalated quite quickly as we took turns making out with him, and when the bar closed, Adam came home with us, along with a friend of mine.

We set up the sofa bed for my friend and then moved into the bedroom with Adam, where things heated up. We ended up fooling around for a little bit and then drunkenly fell asleep.

In the morning, I woke up spooning Adam, who was spooning my husband.

We all leisurely finished each other off and ordered some take out, before watching TV in our pants.

*Names have been changed to protect people’s privacy.

How I Do It

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Facing-away sex positions for sex in the time of Covid restrictions

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The bouncing spoon is one position that you’ll love (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

When it comes to sex, unless you live with your partner you’ve probably been out of the game for a while due to coronavirus.

Even now, regulations state that you should only sleep with people in your household or support bubble, so those without partners have been somewhat left out.

The BBC published an article alongside the Terrence Higgins Trust a few days ago about this ‘new normal’, giving ways that people can mitigate risk if they do have sex with someone else – because let’s face it, that’s going to happen at some point.

One of their recommendations was opting for positions where you and your partner face away from each other.

Lelo’s UK sex and relationship therpaist Kate Moyle tells us ‘These positions also allow for people who are anxious about face to face positions, to maintain their sex lives and pleasure; without increased worry or stress which we know can inhibit pleasure and enjoyment by becoming distracted.’

Along with Lelo we’ve rounded up the best non-facing sex positions to stay safer in the bedroom.

Doggy style

This position is a classic for a reason, giving a lot of control to the giving partner and providing intense pleasure to the one receiving.

Lelo say: ‘Get on all fours, then have your partner kneel behind you, with their upper body straight up or slightly draped over you. This sex position allows for deep penetration and is great for G-spot stimulation…

‘For those wanting to try a modified version, get on your hands and knees and then, while keeping your hips raised, rest your head and arms on the bed.’

This position works for anal and vaginal penetration, and you can stimulate areas like your clitoris with a sex toy or your fingers.

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The guidelines are from the Terrence Higgins Trust (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

Bouncing spoon

The bouncing spoon is very similar to the ‘normal’ spooning position, but is modified so the giving partner is sitting up with their head resting on the wall or headboard.

The little spoon then sits on top facing away, rests back and puts their head on the big spoon’s shoulder.

The little spoon will be in control in this position, able to bounce up and down or grind to their heart’s content (along with clitoris or nipple play from their partner who can easily reach around).

Corkscrew

Don’t worry, there’s no circus-level spinning around for this one. It involves the receiving partner laying on their side on the bed, with their bum or vagina facing outwards.

The giving partner stands up beside the bed and enters, giving you the same depth of penetration as doggy or spooning, but with added sensations.

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Spooning is always a good idea (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

Snow angel

This position seems a lot trickier than it is, but once you get into it you’ll be hooked.

The receiving partner lies flat on their back while the penetrating partner gets on their hands and knees on top of them, facing away and down. At this point it’ll look sort of like a 69 but with your genitals facing each other.

When the penetrating partner is sufficiently straddling, the receiving partner lifts their legs up and wraps them around before being entered.

You both have the control over how deep penetration goes, and can match your grinding and thrusting to each others’ rhythms.

Flatiron 

This one is a little bit like spooning, only on top of each other rather than side by side.

Lelo recommend you ‘lie facedown on the bed, legs straight and hips slightly raised. Have your partner lie on top of you.

‘This position allows for deep penetration and creates a snug fit to allow you to feel close to your partner, even without being face-to-face.’

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Most positions can be adapted for different needs (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

Wheelbarrow

This position is also great for when it’s warm outside (i.e. now) and you want to minimise physical contact while still having great sex.

‘For those feeling a bit more adventurous, get on your hands and feet and have your partner pick you up by the pelvis. And then grip their waist with your thighs,’ explains Lelo.

‘This is a dominating position for the partner holding the ‘wheelbarrow’ and it’s also a fabulous workout for both involved! If your arms get tired, try resting on a table or the side of the bed to give your arms a little break.’

Stand and deliver 

Whether in the shower or having a quickie somewhere secluded, this position can be adapted to just about any location.

Both of you will be standing, but the receiving partner can bend over to ease penetration and make it so their partner can get deeper inside and feel more friction.

Lelo adds: ‘Bending over helps make the vaginal walls tighter and increases the intensity of the friction.’

Reverse Cowgirl 

There’s a reason why people keep coming back to some positions. This one is easy yet effective, and offers a great view for whoever’s on the bottom.

Lelo says: ‘Have your partner lie on their back, and then straddle them but facing their feet.

‘This position allows the person on top to take control of the pace and rhythm. To assert even further dominance, put your knees and shins inside their legs and under their thighs.’

You can play with your clitoris in this position, or alter it slightly for anal.

And remember, as well as staying safe from coronavirus, always practice safe sex.

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Clarks will swap kids shoes that don’t fit for a free pair between now and February

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Kids tend to grow out of their shoes very quickly (Picture: Getty Images)

Depending on when their next growth spurt is, it’s possible that your little ones will have grown out of their new school shoes by Christmas.

This could cost you a fortune depending on which ones you go for, which is what Clarks clearly had in mind when they were creating their new offer.

As part of their back to school guarantee, if you book in with a fitter and buy shoes with them now, you’ll get their fit guarantee.

This means if they grow out of them at any time between now and 28 Feb 2021, you can exchange them (sizes infant 10 upwards) for a completely free pair.

Infant sizes 7 to 9.5 also have a guarantee, but this is slightly shorter – lasting until 30 November 2020.

Shoes must have been purchased between 13th July and 14th September 2020, which leaves you plenty of time to get them all kitted out before school starts again.

When you come back with the too-small shoes you’ll need to show your proof of purchase so keep that handy.

The fitter will then measure your child’s foot against their old shoes to confirm they no longer fit and allow you to pick a new pair of the same value.

If they have no shoes of the same value, you’ll be issued a refund.

It does have to be done in conjunction with a shoe fitting, so make sure you don’t just buy a pair of shoes and expect a new pair when they’re too small. You can book one of these here.

Given how expensive back to school shopping can get, it’s nice to know you aren’t throwing money down the drain on something they won’t wear in a few months.

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I’m 28 and don’t know how to use tampons

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Everyone should have access to knowledge that makes them feel informed and comfortable (Picture: Sian Parker)

I got my period when I was around 11 and I was pretty lucky as my mum had prepared me for it. 

She’d handed me a bag filled with disposable pads and painkillers and mentioned there was another form of menstrual protection I could use called tampons, but we’d cover those when I was older. 

From the get-go, this mysterious introduction not only made me fear them, but it also reinforced the idea that periods – and everything that comes with it – is something that should be hidden.  

As I got older, I picked up bits of information and every time I had a complaint about pads or periods in general, tampons would be mentioned in passing. 

I learnt that I wouldn’t have to forgo activities, such as swimming, when I was using them. And the fact that I wouldn’t be aware of the wad of cotton inside of me seemed to be the tampon’s main appeal. 

When I was finally ready to try them, the only advice I received from peers was: ‘You kind of just shove it up there; you’ll know when it’s in.’ 

Cut to me, completely inexperienced with shoving anything up my vagina, overwhelmed in the bathroom.

Confused by what my mum had told me, as well as the instructions that came with the tampons, I wasted roughly five applicators before I even got one in. 

TV ads promised me new-found empowerment and that I’d be able to go about my day at ease.

In a world where periods are seen as taboo, not having prior knowledge makes this already isolating experience even worse 

Instead, I was in pain and walking differently. When I went to find my mum, she told me my uncomfortableness probably meant I didn’t have it in properly and she couldn’t help but laugh as she watched me walk awkwardly. Not in a mean way, just like she was reminiscing. 

Although she assured me the tampon waddle was a rite of passage, I couldn’t help but feel embarrassed that I couldn’t do something so simple as inserting a tampon.

The people on television did it no problem, hell even some of my friends swore by them! In the years that followed, I would try using them again every so often and feel defeated when it didn’t work out. 

Eventually, I gave up because I couldn’t deal with the shame that came with failing to use one and also how drying they were when I took them out. Everything about tampons to me was an ordeal. 

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It is so essential that menstruation and sanitary products are talked about openly (Picture: Tara Costello)

Looking back, I think my life-long disdain for them could have been avoided simply if I had been better prepared.

Despite being sexually active, my vagina was a complete mystery to me. Like many, my sex education at school was reminiscent of the infamous scene from Mean Girls where Coach Carr states: ‘Don’t have sex. You will get pregnant and die.’ 

There was no discussion of what a period is or its purpose. Let alone things to look out for and how to obtain and use products. 

Yet I feel lucky to have had some, albeit limited, knowledge before mine started. Many do not know what a period is until they experience it. 

And in 2017, Plan International reported that one in 10 people aged 14-21 were unable to afford period products, with 12% having to improvise their protection.

People who are forced to use makeshift products run the risk of infection, not to mention shame, missing education and ostracisation. 

In a world where periods are seen as taboo, not being informed about your own body makes this already isolating experience even worse. 

After partnering with Young Scot in 2018, the Scottish Government was the first in the world to make period products free to students.

At the beginning of 2020, they reported that 84% of those who accessed the free products said the scheme had a positive impact on them.

They also found that 89% admitted they were less worried about having their period, 64% were able to continue with their day and 25% said having access to products positively impacted their mental health. 

That is why it is so essential that menstruation and sanitary products are talked about openly. Surely it benefits everyone? 

Yet, just a few weeks ago, we saw a lighthearted and educational advertisement banned in Ireland after 84 people complained it was demeaning and filled with sexual innuendo.

The ad expands on the advice so many of us receive (‘get it up there’) and actually demonstrates how to properly insert a tampon. 

Considering the dangers associated with improper tampon usage (such as the risk of contracting TSS), it makes no sense to ban accessible and shame-free period talk

I am now at a point in my life where I cannot insert products such as tampons with ease as polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) has caused my ovaries to double in size. It makes my stomach bloat and insertion is near impossible.

So, although I have no plans to try again, I know this advert would be and will be, a great source of education and comfort for many. 

Accessibility and inclusivity are two things that are missing from conversations surrounding periods and why I dedicate so much time to speaking frankly about them.

I talk about my periods with my non-menstruating counterparts and I’m always happy to answer any questions. In fact, I encourage them. 

My own experiences – both good and bad – really inspire me. The lack of open conversation was a big driving force and one of the main reasons why I wanted to write a gender-neutral guide to periods.

There is no denying the positive effects of better education and shame-free access has on people. It is a vital step that needs to happen worldwide. 

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